We all want someone we can rely on, a partner, a lover who we can share our lives with. Somehow, being loyal appears to have become synonymous with taking shit . Has our modern way of life turned loyalty into self-sacrifice? I think, over time we have accepted doing the least, letting things slide and just half-assing relationships as the new normal.
I too have been guilty of giving my all for what I perceived to be real love. I remember being awake several nights ruminating; surely this was not what fairy tales are made of. I do believe that relationships require some form of compromise or minor sacrifice. However, if your significant other should never leave your soul feeling gutted. Some start off so sweetly and when it all ends they are the one holding the knife. Et Tu Brute?
As you look into the eyes of your once fascinating lover and wonder when did this magnificent creature become a beast? My poor deluded heart. Ugh . The jokes I could tell you about my past loves would seriously leave you deceased but let us not go there. Just thank the heavens we eventually wake up from the lust induced stupor.
What exactly do you gain from giving your all to a self-centered twit who cares nothing for you or your feelings? Your time is way too valuable. Just watch how quickly they will move on if you let them go.Stop treating yourself like a charity. Let your output match the input. After all, charitable work does result in good feelings.If you find yourself bitching constantly about how they do you wrong and how your effort is not being matched then take the advice of that Usher song and Just Let It Burn. No, I don’t mean setting their stuff on fire, although oddly enough that could be quite therapeutic.
Love should never leave you feeling hollow. Are you trading your loyalty for feeling broken, worthless and so distorted that you look in the mirror and wonder who is that weak bitch looking back at you? Is losing yourself really worth the illusion of companionship?
I am not strictly speaking of romantic relationships. Anyone who does not have your best interest at heart does not deserve your loyalty. I am speaking from experience; take my foolish advice and shower yourself with love. Be loyal to yourself first, you deserve nothing but the best. Do not tolerate anyone that openly disrespects you, shatters your inner peace and leaves your spirit tattered and torn all for the sake of loyalty.