”Be open to everything and attached to nothing ” Wayne Dyer
When I first heard this quote It took me a while to wrap my head around it. How could I live and not have great expectations? How am I to accept when things go wrong ? Being attached to outcomes is a sure-fire way to be disappointed. How long did it take me to make peace with this? Well, the honest answer is I still have not. Not totally. It is a learning process, a work in progress.
We often are so stuck in our ideas of how we want things to be that we spend a lot of time hating how things are. The result is and will always be misery. Think about it at any given point in your life everything is never always ideal. There will always be things that you want, need and may never have.When you dwell on what is lacking all you will see is lack. The way I see it the only true purpose of life is to be happy. Are you going to let not getting what you expected to affect the way you live your life?
I was watching a series this past week about happiness and I have come to realise your level if happiness relies heavily on your expectations. Your expectations coupled with your perspective. There were people who we in the developed world would consider to be poor yet they were happy and blissful. Why ? Because they expressed gratitude for the little things they had and were not thoroughly obsessed with what they don’t have. We tend to do that a lot. If you still believe stuff makes you happy then you are sadly deluded.
I meditate on this statement daily.
Life can make a turn so quickly it is best to be hopeful but never be tied to any particular outcome.
You expect people to treat you as an equal to love as you do. Some won’t. People will be what they are. Accept or do without them.
So maybe you aren’t in your dream job or haven’t met one of your dreams. You look around at others and in comparison, you feel thoroughly disappointed. Why ? The expectations do not meet the reality.But really what is so terrible about your life?
I challenge you today to focus on what you are grateful for.
Celebrate your wins no matter how small.
Know that if you do not get what you expect something better is coming along b.
Do not put your faith in the flesh.People are unpredictable.
When faced with an issue ask yourself is this something I can change?? If not accept it and move on. It may not happen in a year. It may not happen in a day but eventually, you get over the things that once bothered you.
As always I love to hear from you.
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