I am a Bajan Budgetnista. Striving to be fabulous on a budget. An island girl working on being the best possible version of herself. Libra .Unicorn Lover .Dreamer . I speak of Beauty, Inspiration, Life and other musings. I write about what inspires me. Step into my world. Have a seat, chill. I hope you find something here that moves you . Love and Blessings. Tachi
Love is in the Air. Valentine’s day and all of that is just a money making affair in my opinion. Flowers, dinner, and gifts are nice but really do you only care once a year?I think we often place too much emphasis on specific occasions and days. Every day is a special occasion as long as you are alive. Today I read in one of my newsletters; Love is what remains after the butterflies have settled and the waves of lust have abated.
We often make love conditional by letting our egos get in the way. Some people can make relationships all about them and their needs. Love knows no selfishness or abuse. It builds you up it wraps and you in a cocoon of nurturing bliss. Nothing is perfect. Let’s face it relationships take compromise and work to keep the flame burning. It takes patience and tolerance to love and share your world with another and to accept them as they are; even when they get on your nerves or do that thing you don’t like and you want to choke them.
Love is a form of all-encompassing acceptance but that in no way means you should tolerate any mess. If it does not bring you peace then let it go. Often times letting go can be the ultimate expression of love. Let go of criticising, nitpicking, trying to change the other person. Let go of all the things that hold you back from being at peace with yourself. Not everyone loves the same way. Not everyone you meet is supposed to stay. The breakups and the makeups are all a part of the process. so what if you are single on valentines day? Why would that cause you distress? Are you seeking someone who will love you the right way? It all starts with you. Look in the mirror, single or taken know that you are special. The opinions of others do not and will never define your worth. Do something every day to remind yourself of the fabulous being that you are.
Share your essence and your light in an authentic way. Just be open to everything, to life itself. Work on your body, mind, and soul. Focus on your health. Don’t strive for perfection just do the best you can with every moment. Don’t feel loved? Never forget you are loved. We were designed to love. That source of loving energy is inside all of us. Just take a look at a rainbow, a sunset, the ocean and bask in their beauty. Be at peace with nature and you will never doubt the existence of love. Love does not merely exist within romantic boundaries. Anytime you are kind to another individual that is an act of love. I believe in simplicity. random acts of kindness to me are some of the best expressions of love A hug, a kiss, a love note or text just because. Even sharing your food now that is what love is all about. Nothing says I love you quite like a home cooked meal or baked goods. I like making cakes for those that are special to me. Nothing brings out the happy moments quite like cake.
I think at the end of the day most of us would prefer time or effort over things. So whenever you can do something mundane for the ones you love. Whether it’s helping them with chores or treating them to a massage or even sitting in silence (no phones ) and enjoying their company. Less is more. Just expressing gratitude for having someone in your life can make their day. Tell them they are awesome. show them you are their number one fan. Love begins with you. Know that you are and will always be enough. a divine piece of the universe. An undying energy, a wellspring of love. Tap into that love. Love is the air. Just do that damn thing and love yourself. Be the love you seek. Exude it. Let go of the expectations. Never give to get. You are worthy exactly as you are .
What are some of your favorite ways to express love for yourself and others? I love hearing from you. Love and Blessings Tachi
I absolutely Love that song by Halsey Bad At Love. I really can relate. Can’t blame me for trying. Libras are notoriously in love with love. You take the good with the bad because life ….. no pain without pleasure no dark without light.
How do you know when to let go? When the heart is heavy or your head is shouting danger Jaded lust for a now distant stranger Hold on why should I? The memories, the hopes, the illusion of a better tomorrow The saccharine words so empty and shallow Expectations only disappoint Leading to scars that may never heal High and tripping on that potent love When it all crashes down It’s a curse to feel I am completely Torn Written By Tachira Wiltshire
Weighed down by burdens left unseen They were never hers to carry why couldn’t she keep the slate clean Trying to do it all like Supergirl She could never win Feeling like she was failing at life ready to throw the towel in Giving away precious energy until it eroded her soul It was all so heavy, it got too heavy holding on to the old familiar faces the things that brought her comfort but stabbed at her psyche Dull and aching She longed for a taste of a new life Feeling trapped, caged, a prisoner in her own skin When did she become tethered The lioness wanted to growl but all she could muster was a whimper It was time to start over Allow, accept, and release Face it head on She had forgotten her strength Her inner goddess unamused Clawing to break free from the mental chains Somehow she conjured the strength to rediscover the magic buried deep inside She dug deep, no more suffering, no more doubts she would no longer hide Rediscovering her purpose Redefining her goals, basking in the dysfunctional beauty of the moment she was in She would grow to love herself again
I wrote this one for anyone feeling a little dull or down because sometimes we forget our own power. The momentum that our thoughts can give us, the benefits of a few minutes of mindfulness. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and let it all flow.
Nothing you require is outside of yourself The energy spent seeking approval from others Pour it inward Your body: Move it Dance for no reason Your mind: Nourish it Read, focus on good thoughts Your spirit : Elevate it. Pray. Meditate. Manifest. Love The eternal effervescence ripples through your body You are everything The world teaches you to forget Ignore it Put together the broken pieces Play with the demons make them work for you Being happy and radiating love is your divine responsibility Cultivate an unshakeable vibe Believe everything is always right on time Be the light. Find your fire. Vibe bright Written By Tachira Wiltshire
Here we are in February or the month of love as it is typically called. Single or taken there will always be one individual that you can always rely on and that is yourself. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in fulfilling the needs of others that we forget ourselves. When was the last time you did something nice for yourself, you know just because? Do you take time to go within and celebrate your beauty and all that you have to offer this world? Today and every day I urge you to focus on yourself. Know that you are worthy, special and loved. Here are five simple mantras that serve as a reminder of your divine greatness.
I Am Enough
One of the simplest affirmations and one of the most effective .Self acceptance is the key to happiness. Know this; you lack nothing. You are were not created to be mediocre. Embrace all of your quirks and imperfections know that they make you the unique and wonderful soul that you are.
I am Strong, I am Capable, I Got This Covered
Don’t view obstacles, setbacks, and rejection as negative. They were all designed to make you better, stronger and more versatile. Nothing affirms your fierceness quite like achieving a dream or getting over something that you once viewed as insurmountable. It may take a day, a year or even ten . You are capable of achieving it all. Make goals, manifest and most importantly take action. Nothing ventured. Nothing gained. The only failure is in playing it safe all the time and not trying anything new.
I Am Worthy Of All The Good Things Life Has To Offer
Love, happiness, and joy exist for all of us. Don’t buy into the notion that only a certain type of individual deserves abundance or fulfillment. No matter how you look, your net worth, your beliefs; we are all special. We all deserve to live how we want to. Opinions as always are irrelevant. Your life, your rules. Fear and doubt should never hold you back from manifesting the reality you crave.
I Love Myself Unconditionally
I love you. How often do you say this to yourself? Flatter yourself. Write yourself a love letter. Look in the mirror smile and say I love you. Make a list of all the things you appreciate about yourself. Pin it to your mirror. Keep it in your journal. Commit it to memory. Read it often. You are fabulous. Don’t you ever forget it .
I Trust My Intuition And My Journey
How often we get caught up in the comparison game. It leaves you feeling left behind and like you are less than. You are exactly where you need to be. Make peace with your past so it does not ruin your present. Don’t watch what others are doing it will only distract you from achieving what you want to. Think about it do you really want to be like everyone else? How boring would that be? Put it all into to perspective Look at how far you have come. Work on making yourself better than you were yesterday.
On the bad days, it is difficult to see the rainbow in the dark skies. Just remember to find ways to inject positivity into your life every day. Small consistent efforts often lead to big gains. Love and Blessings Tachi
What are some of your favorite self-care tips and how do you practice self-love? Share in the comments below and let’s spread the love.
Resentment, regret they build up Layers and years of disappointments are parasites that feed on your core You can only hold on to it for so long before it wears you down Steals your inner peace The anger bubbles and it’s hard to control the beast Bitter, when did life become such a bitter pill You look in the mirror and you wonder where did the happy smiling version of you go Everything is dark and it all feels like hell You just don’t want to exist anymore Your burdens are crushing, your mind is a minefield There is no safe haven, no hand to hold Experiences, people have changed you until you become someone you used to know You have lost your sparkle, let them dull your shine until you have nothing left to show Depleted and drained It hurts too much to feel The very thing you are are holding on to is the thing you need to let go A cavity, an empty space, feeling hollow.
Sticking with the romance or as one of my readers said Fifty shades theme. I never finished the books. Anna annoyed me. I think maybe we all want someone to accept us as we are. Completely.
Quiet and unassuming The unexpected stallion rode her rugged Dominant, dark and intense she felt him to her core Tied up, stripped down Relentless passion He was her master She whispered ”Yes sir ” I want to fulfill your every desire ” He possessed her mind, body, and soul.
I was always a fan of trashy romance novels. I suppose all women need that little bit of imaginative spice in their lives; that heart pounding, bliss-inducing electricity these stories always describe. One part fiction, one part real life. My attempt at that dabbling with that romance novel vibe.
” What’s life without a little risk”? he whispered She begged him to go but as he drew nearer her heart slammed against her chest I hate everything about you she taunted He drew her nearer and she quivered as if she was haunted She lost all her reasoning as he gently sampled her lips Heat flooded her body as his kisses grew more intense Piercing and electric His touch was her kryptonite He persisted, she resisted He not only ravished her body but he lay claim to part of soulful essence that night.
I have a safe and comfortable home. I am grateful that there are no wars being fought here.
Have you ever owned a rock, pet rock, or gem that is not jewelry?
I used to collect rocks I found on the beach all of the time when I was younger. Now the only rocks I own are my crystals. They were specially chosen for my Sun Sign which is a Libra.
Are you a hugger or a non-hugger?
I don’t think I am much of a hugger; then again I am an introvert we tend to want to run from human interaction 🙂
What inspired you or what did you appreciate this past week?
My inspiration was simple. As I heard the news of my next door neighbor’s passing; I was reminded that I should enjoy each moment. We are well aware that we must die; however, we never get used to hearing the news of someone’s passing. Don’t spend your moments being miserable. Appreciate every single second you are given.
The purpose of this award is to promote patriotism. Along with it, this reward is created to unify bloggers from different countries through tolerance and appreciation of their nationality. We are already unified by our love for writing and reading, so this is a token of that love.
I have been nominated for this award by the beautiful Obioma. She is one of the first bloggers I met when I first started on my blogging journey. She has been nothing but supportive and encouraging. her kinds words and inspirational posts keep me going on those rough days.
Here are the Rules
1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and post a link to their blog 2. List the rules of the award 3. Post a photo of your National flag and anthem 4. Leave a favorite quote 5. Nominate a few loyal bloggers
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The National Pledge Of Barbados
I pledge allegiance to my country Barbados and to my flag, To uphold and defend their honor, And by my living to do credit to my nation wherever I go.