I am a Bajan Budgetnista. Striving to be fabulous on a budget. An island girl working on being the best possible version of herself. Libra .Unicorn Lover .Dreamer . I speak of Beauty, Inspiration, Life and other musings. I write about what inspires me. Step into my world. Have a seat, chill. I hope you find something here that moves you . Love and Blessings. Tachi
A reason, A season, A lesson, A blessing. Everything in life falls into these four categories, sometimes we have a cocktail of them all because what would life be if we did not have a shake-up once in a while? DO you believe in everything for a reason? Sometimes I have the unshakeable faith that everything will work out on other days I want to stay in bed and binge-watch my life away. How can we justify everything for a reason when the reasons seemingly make no sense. We are not here to judge life or fix it we are here to live it. Sometimes all we can do just live; especially when we consider that most of it is out of our control. We make mistakes.fall down, get up or just lie there. The reactions and your attitude really are all up to you. The time is going to pass anyway so make the best ofit. The most imperfect and dysfunctional moments often make the best stories.
What season are you currently in? An endless winter, a hot summer burn? Or is it hurricane season with no sunshine in sight? Whatever experiences you are having at this moment know that they are essential for your growth. Without challenges, without loss, we would never learn how to appreciate anything at all. Everyone and everything that you encounter has something to teach you. You may not get the lesson right away but the pieces of the puzzle always fall into place somehow. One day you will just have one of those aha moments and you will go…so that is why it happened that way. I had to go through this to get to this point. When you look back on all the things that made you sad, angry or crazy you will be stronger for it .
Remember if you aren’t learning you aren’t growing. Three years ago, after a fairly tumultuous relationship; I have to admit I was a sad and bitter mess. I looked in the mirror and literally wondered who was this staring back me. There had to be more to life than this pain because when you really and truly immerse yourself in another human being , the separation is so gut-wrenching. We have all been through it. It literally feels like it bruises your soul. Thoughts of what if and blame and guilt and all those emotions that typically I really do not want to deal with. Today I can look back on it and accept the lesson . It is no longer a bitter nasty pill for me to swallow but it taught me resilience and how to forgive. ( I also do not feel like setting his stuff on fire anymore).It took me such a long time not to take the actions of others personally. People will act how they act and they do what they do.At the end of the day, we are all trying to do our best. My part in it all is not to retaliate or react. I refuse to let anything threaten my peace. Karma is a mirror and I want nothing but good things coming back at me. Not everything you lose is a loss, you take the experiences as opportunities for growth. Look at yourself today, right this every minute at how far you have come, how much you have been through and you are still standing and dare I say you are pretty awesome too! Don’t get bitter, get better . Turn all of that fiery energy into something good. Make it work for you.
How do you view life? Is it a blessing or the bitch that stole your joy? Let’s put things in perspective with a simple checklist. Put your hand to your heart and feel it beating, are your breathing? Are you clothed?Are you loved? Then really you have all you need at this moment.Life is all about being in the now. Now is after all the only moment we have. Make today a day of appreciation. It can’t always be sunshine and rainbows but you can always find the strength and the wisdom to value all of the good that you have in your life. In a world full of dark clouds be a ray of sunshine. Some days you have to dig deep but always remain steadfast and find the light.
If it does not fit don’t force it Let it flow, set it free In this life, you can never lose or fail Just look within you will find everything you need It is never to late to be reborn, reinvent, write a new story Don’t fuel the fire of worry, Your happiness was never meant to buried, snuffed out by these burdens Life is a learning curve, a work in progress don’t ignore the lessons Regroup, reflect, shake it off When you feel like giving up Put on those big girl panties and as they say, try, try again. Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you deal with life challenges? Do you have a favourite quote or mantra that gets you through the tough times?
Share with us in the comments and remember YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Some days we get so wound up and bent out of shape about things. Things are not going our way or so we think. Someone was rude and put us in a pissy mood. The rain poured, you got dumped, the wax lady messed up youreyebrows (maybe that would be a tragedy). All things we have absolutely no control over.
In life there are celebrations and triumphs and then well sometimes there is stuff that literally makes you feel like shit. Think about itthough, what did your fret or complain aboutyesterday? Is it still relevant today? Was it something you could change? If not you already have the answer right there. Let It Go. If it does not bring you peace let it go.
Let’s consider how quickly time is flying I mean life is literally passing us by. I swear it was just Christmas wasn’t it? How do you want to spend this life .? In a constant state of worry, regret, guilt, anxiety? As my therapist told me, I call her my therapist she is really a soul sister ”Tachira you got this one life. Get out of yourhead. Itisn’t that serious. Let it Go!
Whatever you have lost will be replaced by something better. Whatever is seemingly without a solution will besolved. It is always working out in yourfavour; even when it does not seem that way. So have a drink, eat somecake, binge-watch a show, go to the beach, ravish your lover, hug yourmama, cry, drop an f-bomb or several whatever it takes to get you in a good place.
This one life is what we were given to live joyfully, passionately. It may be a mess sometimes but it’s your mess. I firmly believe there is a flip side a bright side, a lesson in everything. Take a deep breath, laugh it off, cry it out; whatever you do. Just let all of the bullshit go. So I wrote this one for anyone who feels stuck or heavyladen. Remember you can get through anything. You are a badass. You are beautiful and blessed, waytoo awesome to be stressed. Stay in your magic. Give your soul a break and let it go.
I let go of the fucks and set myself free Disregard the chatter of your opinions of me Let the tension dissipate As I can finally breathe No longer defined by your insignificant boundaries I am what I am Repeat after me I am what I am Declare it boldly The energy of an entire universe flows through me Unshakeable, fierce you can’t mess with me Celebrate what you are Seize the power of the present Let go of the fucks and set yourself free.
On March 8th we celebrate International Women’ s Day. This years’ theme is #pressforprogress . I look forward to the day when all women can be afforded the opportunity to live up to their true potential. The day when we will not be judged or labelled for how we chose to live our lives. We all wonder women . We are all beautiful in our own right; with our unique stories and gifts. We are women, a source of unlimited resilience. Love and the utmost respect due to every female on the planet. Never let anything dull your sparkle and remember whatever you are going through. You got this boo. There is nothing that a woman can not handle. Channel your inner goddess. Equality is a right. Let no one ever make you feel unworthy because you are the giver of life. To be feminine is to be divine.
We are the mothers, the creators, the lovers The backbone of society Built to endure any strenuous task Nothing is ever impossible Never a tough ask Underestimated, abused, threatened, perceived as the weaker sex We break down all the barriers and cry out against the injustices You can not rule our bodies, our souls, our spirits, our minds By your misguided standards of beauty and intelligence, we will never be defined Empowered, We are more intense, complex and beautiful than you will ever know It’s 2018, fuck your outdated standards believes and judgments We will not be suppressed and objectified We are women. the catalysts for change A force to be reckoned with, together we stand Fueled by the fire and passion for equal rights
Rise goddesses,, unshakeable divine and full of light.
Beautiful and Blessed Too dope to be stressed These ”problems ” do not define you Tension Anxiety Frustration These are not yours to carry Those who think you are unworthy, that is all at them Don’t let them determine your levels of happy It may feel off-balance, out of whack Shit may feel heavy It is just a temporary test A lesson learned What you have lost cannot compare the bounty that is forthcoming Better days are ahead Just trust and believe.
Written By Tachira Wiltshire… Aspiring giver of Love and Light
Love is in the Air. Valentine’s day and all of that is just a money making affair in my opinion. Flowers, dinner, and gifts are nice but really do you only care once a year?I think we often place too much emphasis on specific occasions and days. Every day is a special occasion as long as you are alive. Today I read in one of my newsletters; Love is what remains after the butterflies have settled and the waves of lust have abated.
We often make love conditional by letting our egos get in the way. Some people can make relationships all about them and their needs. Love knows no selfishness or abuse. It builds you up it wraps and you in a cocoon of nurturing bliss. Nothing is perfect. Let’s face it relationships take compromise and work to keep the flame burning. It takes patience and tolerance to love and share your world with another and to accept them as they are; even when they get on your nerves or do that thing you don’t like and you want to choke them.
Love is a form of all-encompassing acceptance but that in no way means you should tolerate any mess. If it does not bring you peace then let it go. Often times letting go can be the ultimate expression of love. Let go of criticising, nitpicking, trying to change the other person. Let go of all the things that hold you back from being at peace with yourself. Not everyone loves the same way. Not everyone you meet is supposed to stay. The breakups and the makeups are all a part of the process. so what if you are single on valentines day? Why would that cause you distress? Are you seeking someone who will love you the right way? It all starts with you. Look in the mirror, single or taken know that you are special. The opinions of others do not and will never define your worth. Do something every day to remind yourself of the fabulous being that you are.
Share your essence and your light in an authentic way. Just be open to everything, to life itself. Work on your body, mind, and soul. Focus on your health. Don’t strive for perfection just do the best you can with every moment. Don’t feel loved? Never forget you are loved. We were designed to love. That source of loving energy is inside all of us. Just take a look at a rainbow, a sunset, the ocean and bask in their beauty. Be at peace with nature and you will never doubt the existence of love. Love does not merely exist within romantic boundaries. Anytime you are kind to another individual that is an act of love. I believe in simplicity. random acts of kindness to me are some of the best expressions of love A hug, a kiss, a love note or text just because. Even sharing your food now that is what love is all about. Nothing says I love you quite like a home cooked meal or baked goods. I like making cakes for those that are special to me. Nothing brings out the happy moments quite like cake.
I think at the end of the day most of us would prefer time or effort over things. So whenever you can do something mundane for the ones you love. Whether it’s helping them with chores or treating them to a massage or even sitting in silence (no phones ) and enjoying their company. Less is more. Just expressing gratitude for having someone in your life can make their day. Tell them they are awesome. show them you are their number one fan. Love begins with you. Know that you are and will always be enough. a divine piece of the universe. An undying energy, a wellspring of love. Tap into that love. Love is the air. Just do that damn thing and love yourself. Be the love you seek. Exude it. Let go of the expectations. Never give to get. You are worthy exactly as you are .
What are some of your favorite ways to express love for yourself and others? I love hearing from you. Love and Blessings Tachi
I absolutely Love that song by Halsey Bad At Love. I really can relate. Can’t blame me for trying. Libras are notoriously in love with love. You take the good with the bad because life ….. no pain without pleasure no dark without light.
How do you know when to let go? When the heart is heavy or your head is shouting danger Jaded lust for a now distant stranger Hold on why should I? The memories, the hopes, the illusion of a better tomorrow The saccharine words so empty and shallow Expectations only disappoint Leading to scars that may never heal High and tripping on that potent love When it all crashes down It’s a curse to feel I am completely Torn Written By Tachira Wiltshire
Weighed down by burdens left unseen They were never hers to carry why couldn’t she keep the slate clean Trying to do it all like Supergirl She could never win Feeling like she was failing at life ready to throw the towel in Giving away precious energy until it eroded her soul It was all so heavy, it got too heavy holding on to the old familiar faces the things that brought her comfort but stabbed at her psyche Dull and aching She longed for a taste of a new life Feeling trapped, caged, a prisoner in her own skin When did she become tethered The lioness wanted to growl but all she could muster was a whimper It was time to start over Allow, accept, and release Face it head on She had forgotten her strength Her inner goddess unamused Clawing to break free from the mental chains Somehow she conjured the strength to rediscover the magic buried deep inside She dug deep, no more suffering, no more doubts she would no longer hide Rediscovering her purpose Redefining her goals, basking in the dysfunctional beauty of the moment she was in She would grow to love herself again
I wrote this one for anyone feeling a little dull or down because sometimes we forget our own power. The momentum that our thoughts can give us, the benefits of a few minutes of mindfulness. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and let it all flow.
Nothing you require is outside of yourself The energy spent seeking approval from others Pour it inward Your body: Move it Dance for no reason Your mind: Nourish it Read, focus on good thoughts Your spirit : Elevate it. Pray. Meditate. Manifest. Love The eternal effervescence ripples through your body You are everything The world teaches you to forget Ignore it Put together the broken pieces Play with the demons make them work for you Being happy and radiating love is your divine responsibility Cultivate an unshakeable vibe Believe everything is always right on time Be the light. Find your fire. Vibe bright Written By Tachira Wiltshire
Here we are in February or the month of love as it is typically called. Single or taken there will always be one individual that you can always rely on and that is yourself. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in fulfilling the needs of others that we forget ourselves. When was the last time you did something nice for yourself, you know just because? Do you take time to go within and celebrate your beauty and all that you have to offer this world? Today and every day I urge you to focus on yourself. Know that you are worthy, special and loved. Here are five simple mantras that serve as a reminder of your divine greatness.
I Am Enough
One of the simplest affirmations and one of the most effective .Self acceptance is the key to happiness. Know this; you lack nothing. You are were not created to be mediocre. Embrace all of your quirks and imperfections know that they make you the unique and wonderful soul that you are.
I am Strong, I am Capable, I Got This Covered
Don’t view obstacles, setbacks, and rejection as negative. They were all designed to make you better, stronger and more versatile. Nothing affirms your fierceness quite like achieving a dream or getting over something that you once viewed as insurmountable. It may take a day, a year or even ten . You are capable of achieving it all. Make goals, manifest and most importantly take action. Nothing ventured. Nothing gained. The only failure is in playing it safe all the time and not trying anything new.
I Am Worthy Of All The Good Things Life Has To Offer
Love, happiness, and joy exist for all of us. Don’t buy into the notion that only a certain type of individual deserves abundance or fulfillment. No matter how you look, your net worth, your beliefs; we are all special. We all deserve to live how we want to. Opinions as always are irrelevant. Your life, your rules. Fear and doubt should never hold you back from manifesting the reality you crave.
I Love Myself Unconditionally
I love you. How often do you say this to yourself? Flatter yourself. Write yourself a love letter. Look in the mirror smile and say I love you. Make a list of all the things you appreciate about yourself. Pin it to your mirror. Keep it in your journal. Commit it to memory. Read it often. You are fabulous. Don’t you ever forget it .
I Trust My Intuition And My Journey
How often we get caught up in the comparison game. It leaves you feeling left behind and like you are less than. You are exactly where you need to be. Make peace with your past so it does not ruin your present. Don’t watch what others are doing it will only distract you from achieving what you want to. Think about it do you really want to be like everyone else? How boring would that be? Put it all into to perspective Look at how far you have come. Work on making yourself better than you were yesterday.
On the bad days, it is difficult to see the rainbow in the dark skies. Just remember to find ways to inject positivity into your life every day. Small consistent efforts often lead to big gains. Love and Blessings Tachi
What are some of your favorite self-care tips and how do you practice self-love? Share in the comments below and let’s spread the love.
Resentment, regret they build up Layers and years of disappointments are parasites that feed on your core You can only hold on to it for so long before it wears you down Steals your inner peace The anger bubbles and it’s hard to control the beast Bitter, when did life become such a bitter pill You look in the mirror and you wonder where did the happy smiling version of you go Everything is dark and it all feels like hell You just don’t want to exist anymore Your burdens are crushing, your mind is a minefield There is no safe haven, no hand to hold Experiences, people have changed you until you become someone you used to know You have lost your sparkle, let them dull your shine until you have nothing left to show Depleted and drained It hurts too much to feel The very thing you are are holding on to is the thing you need to let go A cavity, an empty space, feeling hollow.