I can honestly say that October has been quite a bittersweet month for me. It started with birthday celebrations for myself and one of my fave co-workers; that was definitely the high point. It also has been ripe with financial mishaps, tons of work stress and various other happenings that would make a really juicy telenovela…Life.
Let’s just say that I have not been my most vibrant, positive self. I am often disappointed that I am not Wonder Woman and as a result, I can’t fix all the problems of the world. Is that a trait of all mothers or just my overly obsessive Scorpio moon tendencies? (p.s I am an astrology nut) . She is a badass, she has it all handled. I do on most days; on others as my nearest and dearest would agree I am a mess. We all are in some way, aren’t we? I openly embrace my messy; it is what makes us unique.
I found myself in desperate need of a spiritual pick me up and the Universe answered. Lucy Smith, a personal development coach and owner of Succeed Now reached out to me and encouraged me to sign up for her 5-day email challenge Take Control and Feel Free. I think she sent it two weeks ago. Hey, I still procrastinate. Procrastination another one of my messy traits. It is a work in progress. I decided to share this with you because I love spreading good vibes and you like me may be tired, stressed or just need a little boost. Hopefully, at the end of the challenge, you will get your mojo back.
Rediscovering Gratitude- Day One
Gratitude is such a simple and often overlooked concept . We seem to find it easier to focus on the drama and all that is going wrong; instead of just simply giving thanks for the good stuff. Trust me , even when everything appears to be shit there is always some tiny spark of light somewhere . You just have to look. I created a gratitude jar because I love anything simple and crafty. I found an old mason jar in the kitchen cupboard. I decorated it with a few stickers and started On October 30th. I plan to write one thing I am grateful for every day until the end of the year. I also incorporated day 2 of the 20 Day mental health challenge which asked us to journal 10 things we are grateful for and I dropped those in the jar as well .i find myself complaining a lot lately. I saw this as the perfect opportunity to shift focus to all the good things I have and all of the awesome people I am surrounded by.
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Giving Your Words power by using I am affirmations- Day Two
The words you speak shape your life. How do you perceive yourself? What are your strengths? Do you believe that you are fabulous and capable of any and everything you desire? Day two encouraged me to envision and reinforce all the things I am and that I want to become. I used this as an opportunity to redefine my purpose and to celebrate the beauty of being a flawless yet divine being. It is a basic principle of life what you say and think you eventually become. We are often so discouraged and frustrated by the events of life we forget our power. Being the former art student that I am I took out my sketchbook and used this one as an excuse to draw. I pretty much wrote whatever came to mind. Lucy asked us to draft 10 affirmations and here are mine.
I AM : *abundantly blessed * loving and accepting of all of my flaws * a work in progress. Life was never meant to be perfect only to be enjoyed * healthy and vibrant * deserving of all the good things that life has to offer * determined to achieve all my goals * creating a life that I love *am strong and focused * open and accepting to change *successful *love and appreciate me
Mediation Is The Medication- Day Three
Mediation has been a part of my daily routine for approximately three years now. It is one of my favourite tools to calm the crazy I got started with and still am in love with guided meditations. Guided meditations are probably the only time that I can follow instructions or appreciate someone telling me what to do. Lucy recommends the following podcasts to get you started : One Mind Dharma Mindful In Minutes Tracks To Relax Insight Timer App
I usually find my videos on YouTube or I use one these following apps : Headspace Calm
Breethe Check out the healing benefits of meditation HERE. It takes a while to get into it but I find meditation to be very effective in keeping me centered and trust me it takes a lot to do that.
Building Confidence- Day Four
Learn to love and appreciate your abilities; that is the meaning of confidence. We all doubt ourselves and even the most solid and grounded of us have those moments where we feel less than confident. Lucy suggested visualizing every day and I totally endorse that. Visualize yourself as confident and living the life you desire. Visualizing helps me stay focused on my goals even when circumstances are less than ideal.
Crafting A Morning Routine- Day Five
Start the day on a positive note so that whatever transpires throughout the day can not really phase you. Wake up and do something you love, think happy thoughts. Listen to something that stirs your very soul. Get moving. Pray. Meditate. Make love. Whatever gets you feeling in touch with your soul. I long for a morning routine that does not involve me cursing my alarm and wishing it was Saturday. The morning routine that I strive for is a ten min meditation, ten minutes of yoga and listening to a ten-minute motivational track. For days when life does not go as planned; I downloaded some affirmation tracks on my phone to listen to during my walk to work. I find that at least one or a combination of these gets me in the right frame of mind to start the day.
This challenge was a breath of fresh air. The main thing that it taught me is that I have to be consistent. The journey to inner peace and balance is a continuous one and although life can get tricky we must continue to do the things that bring us joy and spark our spirits. You can find Lucy Smith on Succeed Now Or Facebook.
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How do you think is the best way to start your day?
Hi there lovelies, It has been a while since I have been in this space. These past few months have been a mishmash of all things crazy. Highs and lows and everything in between. I found myself feeling quite stressed, uninspired and literally wanting to take a nap until the year ends. When I find myself feeling off-balance I always look for ways to get myself centered again because I am totally useless to those nearest and dearest to me when I am not functioning t my peak. Let’s face it none of us are.
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We are fast approaching the end of the year; in my opinion the two busiest months of the entire year. I was so pleased when one of my sisters shared this Mental health Challenge on Facebook. I thought this is exactly what I need to add a little zen to my daily crazy. Why not start November on a positive note and recharge, renew and restore your spirit. You would be totally surprised at how a few simple changes can boost your mood and outlook on life .. Also maybe several cups of coffee and affirmation tracks on repeat.
I would absolutely love it if you join me in this challenge. I love the simplicity of it and it can be easily incorporated into even the most hectic of daily routines. Hit me up in the comments. Introduce yourself and let me know your plans, goals for the rest of the year. Only two more months to go Let-s end this one with a bang . Join me and have a Happy healthy November 🙂
Feel free to share with your friends and loved ones because everything is more fun with the ones you love.
Mondays are the beginning. No matter where we are in life we have a chance to begin again. When we go through those tough times we often forget how resilient we are. We often forget that there is hope as long as there is life. I write this for myself as much I write for others. The troubles pass, the days get easier. Never forget life is a gift. Never forget Life is beautiful. [click_to_tweet tweet=”You are a Divine creation and You are always loved.” quote=”You are a Divine creation and You are always loved.” theme=”style5″]
This is your reminder that everything will be alright The signs may say different but there is no need to fight The process, the present circumstances may not be ideal There is never a trial without a lesson, a blessing an opportunity to heal This is your reminder that everything will be alright It is just a moment, they always pass Stay grounded in the present the upheaval never lasts There is no need to fight the process, You are on the path to progress just you wait and see You may not like it, you may not love it but you are exactly where you need to be Like the dragonfly, the transformation will be inspiring Stay open to every possibility, these growing pains mean nothing It is all going to come together just you wait and see You may not love it, you may not like it but you are exactly where you need to be.
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How do you get through the tough times? What is your favorite way to stay motivated?
Hi there lovelies, Welcome to another instalment of the Sunday Soul Food Series. I don’t know about you guys but the past two months have been one emotional roller coaster ride. I blame the full moon and new moon being In Cancer. They are some deep and brooding souls. I have lost count of all of the times I have literally said I can’t this month. Then common sense kicked in and I realised whatever I speak will manifest. If I think I can’t then guess what I want . Have you guys ever felt that way like you just can’t deal with all of the ”stuff ” that life throws at you sometimes? Everything becomes so difficult and burdensome and a downright chore. You start to develop a defeatist attitude like maybe I should just lie here and not complete another damn thing. When you start to feel this way just consider these four thoughts before you start to utter another negative word or have another woe is me thought.
It never is as hopeless as you think.
How do you react when faced with difficulties will always be the determinant of your level of satisfaction or success. We all have struggles, setbacks, hiccups. Think about it. Was there ever anything you ever went through that you did not grow through? The bad break up, the job loss, paying off those bills. It sometimes feels like it is taking a century but at the end of the day the situation does change and you overcome it. Have you ever been so damaged by anything that you went through that you did not survive another day? If you are reading this then chances are the answer is a bit fat NO. The next time you are feeling that you can’t, remember those times that you slew those dragons, wrestled with those demons and you still came out victorious. Those thoughts will give you the encouragement and that little injection of empowerment that you need to keep pushing through.
The problem is not the problem. It is your attitude about the problem that is the problem.
Yes, I meant to rhyme there. That heading sure is a mouthful. You essentially attract the energy that you put out. Fretting, fussing, cussing, frustration only attracts more things for you to get upset about . Be the one that looks for the solutions in times of crisis and not the one that runs and panics . The world isn’t ending the sky isn’t falling . What you envision as the outcome is what you will get . Try to focus your energy not on the size of the issue or the seemingly tragic outcome , instead focus on how you can and will overcome it .
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Life does not happen on your timetable.
So maybe you want this one thing and you sat and you pictured it and you worked hard and still no results. What now? Do you give up or keep going ? in life, nothing rarely ever happens exactly how or when we want it to. When you make peace with that simple yet sometimes quite difficult fact; then you are halfway on the path to your dreams. We all get frustrated. we all want what we want and we want it now. I personally want to work four-hour days and retire at 40 and sip margaritas while laying on exotic beaches. We all have our dreams and aspirations. You will get what you want or maybe not. You will get something better. Life has a way of giving us what we need. Hold that vision and trust the process.
Sometimes when you think you can’t. You shouldn’t.
Have you ever had so much to do that you literally do not know where to start? I am the type of person that procrastinates when I have a lot to do. After the procrastination then comes panic and me wondering what I was thinking I committed to all this ‘stuff’ in the first place. You really cannot be everything to everyone. You really cannot keep going and giving and doing like the energiser bunny. He has unlimited reserves, you do not. Next time you feel like you can’t. Examine where you place your energy What and who you give your attention to. Pay attention to your body, your emotions. Have you been taking care of yourself as you should? Sometimes we just need to pause, declutter our mind, body and soul, Reevaluate our goals and most importantly; learn to say no to all the things that make us feel like crap. Just be with yourself. Recharge and rest. Always listen to your instincts they never ever lead you down the wrong path. Be kind to yourself always. Speak lovingly to and of yourself and turn that no I can’t intoYES I WILL.
Thoughts become things So what do you believe in? Do you listen to that little nag in your head that says ”You can’t do it ” or are you going to listen to that inner voice that screams Everything that you wanted can be yours You are doing your best. I am going to win.
How do you cope when feeling like you can’t What are some of the ways you stay motivated when life gets you down?
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Hi, there lovelies Happy and Blessed Sunday to all of you beautiful souls.
Something about Sundays reverberates quiet reflection for me. For some it is a day of worship, for others, it just screams fun in the sun. If you are lucky you have the day off from work. I remember two years of working Sundays, for me that was just so disrespectful lol but hey one must pay the bills, feed the family and also my mild shopping addiction. Whatever your Sunday entails; how about you ask yourself today, What can I do to make life better for me? Be totally selfish. You deserve it. Somehow our souls always have the answers, we know what needs to be done but yet we often times feel guilty about saying no or maybe just disappearing for a few hours for a recharge. Take a few minutes today to do something that brings you joy. Absolutely no excuses. Even if it is just buying yourself an ice cream cone and pretending that you are a toddler again with not a care in this world. Simply reflect on this past week and what made it great, even if it wasn’t so great to use your imagination it can lead you to some wonderful places. As usual, I leave you with one of my poems. Hopefully, it inspires you, sparks some food for thought or simply let it be a few seconds to escape from it all.
Life can be messy
You have to choose your battles wisely
Are you going to walk around with a weight on your shoulders?
No wonder you are tired
Worry does make the air so thick and heavy
It can become stifling, crippling, gripping you so tightly that your forget t breathe
In any situation you have three options :
Stress about it, Accept it or if you just can’t deal then carry on smartly
No need for revenge, resentment or regret
We have no space to encourage and foster that bad energy
Work on your own shit
Don’t watch others are doing
Work on where you place your focus
Sometimes you trip, you most definitely will fall
No shame in faltering as long as you get back up again
Be brave enough to choose yourself
Pick your battles, Keep your glow up
In this life you need to choose your battles wisely
If it does not bring you peace then it isn’t for you
Put one foot in front of the other, let it go, move on from the darkness
Sometimes you just need to say to hell with it and walk away
Pick your battles, know your worth and carry on smartly
Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you deal with life’s messes? What brings you joy?
When I was younger, I always saw endings as a tragedy They induced panic, caused tears.
So dramatic I was I always thought they were the end of me As I grew older and mastered the skill of letting things go I realised that faith would guide me The things that fall away were only meant to be there for a moment The disappointments, the rejections they do not define me The pain , the upset the messy moments They all come together to help you grow So what if it is over? It was fun for the while
The time has come to let it go Endings don’t have to be sad It may have been good but better will come Have faith, take that leap Welcome all possibilities with open arms Let go and let it flow.
Sometimes, we all have our weak moments. You guys can relate I am sure, You know the ones where you get down on yourself because you think maybe, just maybe you are falling behind or your life is not going according to your best-laid plans. I came up with this one after a meditation. I totally love when inspiration hits me from nowhere. This is a reminder for myself as well as anyone who needs it. You are a precious gift to this world. Never forget to .. Cherish yourself, take care of your inner needs and take exquisite care of yourself.
You do not have to be defined by your experiences You do not have to be tethered to your past Take things one day at a time Work on enjoying this moment Take a deep breath Feel your body fill with calm and contentment Smile and believe, any moment, this very moment can be your fresh start.
Start as many times as you need to Be patient with yourself Love yourself relentlessly Your energy, your vibe your soul that is your wealth Take time to unplug, decompress, chuck it all to just be and spend some time with yourself You have the power to be whatever you want to be and not be defined externals Focus on you , fill your own damn cup for once It is never selfish, only foolish not to pour all of the love you have into yourself
Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you show yourself, Love? What is your favourite self-care activity?
Surrender to the moment. Just let it be. Whatever it is. Don’t force it. Don’t judge it. Don’t fear it. Just feel it. Accept it. Just be it. Just Live.
Sometimes I long for simple days. The days when all I had to do was concern myself with what I wanted to eat for lunch. Just maybe I miss being a toddler. I envy my daughter sometimes, such a carefree unbridled bundle of energy. Some days as much as I hate to admit it; life is synonymous with overwhelm. We take on everything. We take on far too much until we feel like we have the weight of the entire Universe on our shoulders. It is safe to say sometimes I think this adulting business can miss me. I just want to be like a toddler and run around in my underwear and do whatever my little heart desires.
The bills are due and you are sitting there thinking about tomorrow and all of the things that you have to do. I don’t know about you but I am sick of to do lists. Yes, they keep us organized but they also keep us busy. So busy that we forget that we were not created to do stuff all the time. We were created to be joyful and carefree and to just simply be.
Anyone out there ever had an anxiety attack? I really do not know how to describe it. The walls are closing in. You are trying your best to keep shit together. Keep it all together. I am that kind of woman. I want to do it all and I want to do it all alone. Of course, I know this is not logical but as much as we resist we are all affected by the pressures of daily life at some point. When I get anxious, I literally forget to breathe. I think most of my anxiousness is brought on by my endless need for mental to-do lists. Things are not how I want them to be or maybe I have so many things I “must do”. My mind is not present and I am trying to live oh so many moments at once.
All the trivial things you worry about can make u manic. What are you doing? Living for next week next month next year? Or are you beating yourself up for something you did or did not do last year? We often forget that all we ever really have is now. Have you ever been overwhelmed? Truly overwhelmed? During these periods of overwhelm so many mixed emotions can arise. None of them, at least in my case are ever anything good. Self-doubt, fear, shame they all come crashing down like thunderstorms. Even for the strong ones, it can be too much to bear. I strongly believe in the immensely beautiful power of words; so I came up with five affirmations that can help you reset and refocus your mind when you are overwhelmed. We all have those days when we feel like the world is against us.
Sometimes you just need a reminder to think happy thoughts and JUST BREATHE.
We all have those days when we forget how awesome we are. Do not place your value in the hands of those who do not appreciate you You are a STAR. Don’t you ever forget it . Nip those feelings of unworthiness in the bud with this affirmation.
As one of my good friends said just today as much self -love you have there are things that happen that will shake you ,that will sting a little.We are after all perfectly imperfectly. All you can do is take life’s challenges in stride. Keep your head held high and march forward t the future you have envisioned. Just remember no matter what you are confident and strong and you have got this.
Most importantly; Life for today for this moment. Stop looking back and stay focused on the prize.
Do you believe in the power of affirmations?What are some of your favourite ones and how do you deal when you are feeling overwhelmed? Share in the comments below.
YouTube is such a wonderful space. I get lost there on several occasions. Don’t you? In fact, it is one of my main sources of inspiration. Check out my favourite channels that I visit for a little pick me up, advice and motivation.
My list would not be complete without this channel. I remember one night my mind was feeling so full I could barely concentrate. Something just told me to try meditation and I ended up on this channel. She had me at bliss in four minutes. Don’t think you have the patience for meditation. Trust me if I can do it anyone can. On this channel, she also covers exercise and total body health. Basically, it caters to your mind-body and spirit.
Yoga is one of my best-loved activities for balance and overall well-being. Never tried it: well check out this post to learn about all the benefits of yoga.I think everyone already knows about this channel but I had to include it. She has yoga for every mood, purpose and ailment, She also incorporates the use of affirmations and mantras. Her videos just leave me feeling oh so good.
What are some of your favourite YouTube channels? Share them in the comments below.