Hi there lovelies, Welcome to another instalment of the Sunday Soul Food Series. I don’t know about you guys but the past two months have been one emotional roller coaster ride. I blame the full moon and new moon being In Cancer. They are some deep and brooding souls. I have lost count of all of the times I have literally said I can’t this month. Then common sense kicked in and I realised whatever I speak will manifest. If I think I can’t then guess what I want . Have you guys ever felt that way like you just can’t deal with all of the ”stuff ” that life throws at you sometimes? Everything becomes so difficult and burdensome and a downright chore. You start to develop a defeatist attitude like maybe I should just lie here and not complete another damn thing. When you start to feel this way just consider these four thoughts before you start to utter another negative word or have another woe is me thought.
It never is as hopeless as you think.
How do you react when faced with difficulties will always be the determinant of your level of satisfaction or success. We all have struggles, setbacks, hiccups. Think about it. Was there ever anything you ever went through that you did not grow through? The bad break up, the job loss, paying off those bills. It sometimes feels like it is taking a century but at the end of the day the situation does change and you overcome it. Have you ever been so damaged by anything that you went through that you did not survive another day? If you are reading this then chances are the answer is a bit fat NO. The next time you are feeling that you can’t, remember those times that you slew those dragons, wrestled with those demons and you still came out victorious. Those thoughts will give you the encouragement and that little injection of empowerment that you need to keep pushing through.
The problem is not the problem. It is your attitude about the problem that is the problem.
Yes, I meant to rhyme there. That heading sure is a mouthful. You essentially attract the energy that you put out. Fretting, fussing, cussing, frustration only attracts more things for you to get upset about . Be the one that looks for the solutions in times of crisis and not the one that runs and panics . The world isn’t ending the sky isn’t falling . What you envision as the outcome is what you will get . Try to focus your energy not on the size of the issue or the seemingly tragic outcome , instead focus on how you can and will overcome it .
So maybe you want this one thing and you sat and you pictured it and you worked hard and still no results. What now? Do you give up or keep going ? in life, nothing rarely ever happens exactly how or when we want it to. When you make peace with that simple yet sometimes quite difficult fact; then you are halfway on the path to your dreams. We all get frustrated. we all want what we want and we want it now. I personally want to work four-hour days and retire at 40 and sip margaritas while laying on exotic beaches. We all have our dreams and aspirations. You will get what you want or maybe not. You will get something better. Life has a way of giving us what we need. Hold that vision and trust the process.
Sometimes when you think you can’t. You shouldn’t.
Have you ever had so much to do that you literally do not know where to start? I am the type of person that procrastinates when I have a lot to do. After the procrastination then comes panic and me wondering what I was thinking I committed to all this ‘stuff’ in the first place. You really cannot be everything to everyone. You really cannot keep going and giving and doing like the energiser bunny. He has unlimited reserves, you do not. Next time you feel like you can’t. Examine where you place your energy What and who you give your attention to. Pay attention to your body, your emotions. Have you been taking care of yourself as you should? Sometimes we just need to pause, declutter our mind, body and soul, Reevaluate our goals and most importantly; learn to say no to all the things that make us feel like crap. Just be with yourself. Recharge and rest. Always listen to your instincts they never ever lead you down the wrong path. Be kind to yourself always. Speak lovingly to and of yourself and turn that no I can’t intoYES I WILL.
Thoughts become things So what do you believe in? Do you listen to that little nag in your head that says ”You can’t do it ” or are you going to listen to that inner voice that screams Everything that you wanted can be yours You are doing your best. I am going to win.
How do you cope when feeling like you can’t What are some of the ways you stay motivated when life gets you down?
It was fun for a while , those playful days in the sun She thought he would be the one to always make her smile Sand flowed through her fingers She wanted to build something everlasting Put her heart and soul into it An unexpected wave came in and washed it all away Tried her hardest to salvage the ruins In the end he wouldn’t stay Grains of love remained , stuck to heart and stinging her eyes The remnants of their time together Memories replaying in her mind Some people are like sandcastles They aren’t meant to stay You have fun , you cherish the moments You build a masterpiece only to have it washed away This is the story of love and life You play with the fire and get burned 1000 times Feelings cut you like a knife This is the story of love and life Everything is temporary Not everything is meant to stay You build a beautiful sandcastle only to have it washed away
YouTube is such a wonderful space. I get lost there on several occasions. Don’t you? In fact, it is one of my main sources of inspiration. Check out my favourite channels that I visit for a little pick me up, advice and motivation.
My list would not be complete without this channel. I remember one night my mind was feeling so full I could barely concentrate. Something just told me to try meditation and I ended up on this channel. She had me at bliss in four minutes. Don’t think you have the patience for meditation. Trust me if I can do it anyone can. On this channel, she also covers exercise and total body health. Basically, it caters to your mind-body and spirit.
Yoga is one of my best-loved activities for balance and overall well-being. Never tried it: well check out this post to learn about all the benefits of yoga.I think everyone already knows about this channel but I had to include it. She has yoga for every mood, purpose and ailment, She also incorporates the use of affirmations and mantras. Her videos just leave me feeling oh so good.
What are some of your favourite YouTube channels? Share them in the comments below.
A reason, A season, A lesson, A blessing. Everything in life falls into these four categories, sometimes we have a cocktail of them all because what would life be if we did not have a shake-up once in a while? DO you believe in everything for a reason? Sometimes I have the unshakeable faith that everything will work out on other days I want to stay in bed and binge-watch my life away. How can we justify everything for a reason when the reasons seemingly make no sense. We are not here to judge life or fix it we are here to live it. Sometimes all we can do just live; especially when we consider that most of it is out of our control. We make mistakes.fall down, get up or just lie there. The reactions and your attitude really are all up to you. The time is going to pass anyway so make the best ofit. The most imperfect and dysfunctional moments often make the best stories.
What season are you currently in? An endless winter, a hot summer burn? Or is it hurricane season with no sunshine in sight? Whatever experiences you are having at this moment know that they are essential for your growth. Without challenges, without loss, we would never learn how to appreciate anything at all. Everyone and everything that you encounter has something to teach you. You may not get the lesson right away but the pieces of the puzzle always fall into place somehow. One day you will just have one of those aha moments and you will go…so that is why it happened that way. I had to go through this to get to this point. When you look back on all the things that made you sad, angry or crazy you will be stronger for it .
Remember if you aren’t learning you aren’t growing. Three years ago, after a fairly tumultuous relationship; I have to admit I was a sad and bitter mess. I looked in the mirror and literally wondered who was this staring back me. There had to be more to life than this pain because when you really and truly immerse yourself in another human being , the separation is so gut-wrenching. We have all been through it. It literally feels like it bruises your soul. Thoughts of what if and blame and guilt and all those emotions that typically I really do not want to deal with. Today I can look back on it and accept the lesson . It is no longer a bitter nasty pill for me to swallow but it taught me resilience and how to forgive. ( I also do not feel like setting his stuff on fire anymore).It took me such a long time not to take the actions of others personally. People will act how they act and they do what they do.At the end of the day, we are all trying to do our best. My part in it all is not to retaliate or react. I refuse to let anything threaten my peace. Karma is a mirror and I want nothing but good things coming back at me. Not everything you lose is a loss, you take the experiences as opportunities for growth. Look at yourself today, right this every minute at how far you have come, how much you have been through and you are still standing and dare I say you are pretty awesome too! Don’t get bitter, get better . Turn all of that fiery energy into something good. Make it work for you.
How do you view life? Is it a blessing or the bitch that stole your joy? Let’s put things in perspective with a simple checklist. Put your hand to your heart and feel it beating, are your breathing? Are you clothed?Are you loved? Then really you have all you need at this moment.Life is all about being in the now. Now is after all the only moment we have. Make today a day of appreciation. It can’t always be sunshine and rainbows but you can always find the strength and the wisdom to value all of the good that you have in your life. In a world full of dark clouds be a ray of sunshine. Some days you have to dig deep but always remain steadfast and find the light.
If it does not fit don’t force it Let it flow, set it free In this life, you can never lose or fail Just look within you will find everything you need It is never to late to be reborn, reinvent, write a new story Don’t fuel the fire of worry, Your happiness was never meant to buried, snuffed out by these burdens Life is a learning curve, a work in progress don’t ignore the lessons Regroup, reflect, shake it off When you feel like giving up Put on those big girl panties and as they say, try, try again. Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you deal with life challenges? Do you have a favourite quote or mantra that gets you through the tough times?
Share with us in the comments and remember YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Beautiful and Blessed Too dope to be stressed These ”problems ” do not define you Tension Anxiety Frustration These are not yours to carry Those who think you are unworthy, that is all at them Don’t let them determine your levels of happy It may feel off-balance, out of whack Shit may feel heavy It is just a temporary test A lesson learned What you have lost cannot compare the bounty that is forthcoming Better days are ahead Just trust and believe.
Written By Tachira Wiltshire… Aspiring giver of Love and Light
Weighed down by burdens left unseen They were never hers to carry why couldn’t she keep the slate clean Trying to do it all like Supergirl She could never win Feeling like she was failing at life ready to throw the towel in Giving away precious energy until it eroded her soul It was all so heavy, it got too heavy holding on to the old familiar faces the things that brought her comfort but stabbed at her psyche Dull and aching She longed for a taste of a new life Feeling trapped, caged, a prisoner in her own skin When did she become tethered The lioness wanted to growl but all she could muster was a whimper It was time to start over Allow, accept, and release Face it head on She had forgotten her strength Her inner goddess unamused Clawing to break free from the mental chains Somehow she conjured the strength to rediscover the magic buried deep inside She dug deep, no more suffering, no more doubts she would no longer hide Rediscovering her purpose Redefining her goals, basking in the dysfunctional beauty of the moment she was in She would grow to love herself again
I have a safe and comfortable home. I am grateful that there are no wars being fought here.
Have you ever owned a rock, pet rock, or gem that is not jewelry?
I used to collect rocks I found on the beach all of the time when I was younger. Now the only rocks I own are my crystals. They were specially chosen for my Sun Sign which is a Libra.
Are you a hugger or a non-hugger?
I don’t think I am much of a hugger; then again I am an introvert we tend to want to run from human interaction 🙂
What inspired you or what did you appreciate this past week?
My inspiration was simple. As I heard the news of my next door neighbor’s passing; I was reminded that I should enjoy each moment. We are well aware that we must die; however, we never get used to hearing the news of someone’s passing. Don’t spend your moments being miserable. Appreciate every single second you are given.
I have been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by the beautiful Mikayla. She is a fellow island girl and a passionate vegan. I want to thank her for the nomination you can check out her blog at Caribbean Curl.
Sunshine Blogger Award Rules: 1. Thank blogger(s) who nominated you in a blog post and link back to their blog.
2. Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
3. Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.
4. List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog.
What is your favorite thing about blogging?
My favorite thing about blogging is being able to share my thoughts and ideas with others. I really enjoy interacting with my fellow bloggers they make the blogosphere feel like home.
Why did you start blogging? Any inspirations?
I started blogging because I just felt the urge to write and create. I find blogging to be quite therapeutic. My best friend who just happens to be a psychiatrist recommended that I start one; maybe she was trying to tell me that I need counseling who knows.
If you only had one word to describe your blog, what would it be?
Inspiring well hopefully that is what I aim for it to be.
Where are you from? Describe it.
I am from Barbados. A tiny island in the Caribbean. 166 square miles to be exact. Sun, sea, and sand are what we are all about. We don’t have the typical seasons here. Barbadians love good food, rum, and calypso. Beautiful beaches are the main highlight of the island. I would like to think that it makes up for the ridiculous cost of living here.
What is something that you are passionate about?
Anything that inspires me to be creative and to express myself. I have always loved drama and the arts.
Where is your happy place?
My happy place is the beach. I honestly could spend my entire life there. I just love the water.
If you had the chance to meet any celebrity/ influencer, who would it be?
I would love to meet PatrickStarrrI love his bold and bubbly personality. Not to mention his makeup is to die for.
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
In ten years I want to be living in another country. I have not decided where yet. I will own my own business and be financially free.
What is your biggest fear?
I have a fear of drowning. I really should learn how toswim.
What is something you’ve been wanting to do but have been putting off?
I need to learn how to drive. I have been putting it off for years.
If you could travel in time, would you travel to the past or the future? Why?
I would travel to the future I want to see how the world turns out and if we actually achieve equality and make the world a better place.
Life requires an agile approach. You have to be flexible and adaptable to maneuver those sharp turns and the rocky roads that you end up on sometimes. Change is like a river ever flowing. You will find yourself lost if you go against the tide.
Always make peace with your current situation. Remember no situation is infinite. Open your mind to all possibilities. Being overly rigid will only break you down and leave you feeling defeated. Remember to always keep moving.
Express gratitude for everything. No matter how simple. Oftentimes we have so much more than we realize because we are too busy focusing on what is missing instead of all the great things we have within our reach. Never lose sight of or take for granted all of the value that there is in your life.
Embrace the quirky imperfect being that you are. You are enough. The world needs you; not some carbon copy or a cheap imitation of who the world pressures you to be. Do not be defined by your possessions, your social status or your appearance all of that in the grand scheme of things is quite frivolous really. Work on feeding your soul, getting to know yourself so well to a point where nothing can shake you. You are a divine being. It is difficult but just drown out all of that external noise.
Live and Do All Things With Love
Some days it feels like we are merely existing as we are heavy laden with the hectic nature of modern-day life. Time is limited. There is fun to be had and memories to be made. Sometimes you just have to go with your gut. Do whatever your heart desires as long as it brings you happiness.It’s your story. No one has the right to tell you that you are doing it wrong . Screw the rules. There is no manual on how to experience life. Unpleasant moments and dubious decisions do not amount to a bad life. Don’t doubt yourself you are doing just fine.
Expand your mind.
Educate yourself. I am not just referring to studying here. Ask questions. Read. Explore. Do not just blindly follow what you have been told. Question the status quo. The world needs more independent thinkers. Immerse yourself in new cultures and unique experiences. When you learn more about others you will be less judgemental and more tolerant of someone who does not look, dress or act like you.
Your current situation is never your final destination.
Dare to live a life bountiful full of peace, love, and hope. There won’t always be rainbows and sunshine but whenever you can, however, you can call in the good.
The rules only seem not apply to some Puzzling and frustrating are the inequities of this life Some can find a loophole in any sticky situation They just live to stir the pot and cause nothing but strife The dream and the goal is the pursuit of equality A celebration of what is fair and just To live in world where only good flourishes and no one has to struggle to survive Where kindness is automatic and we appreciate the value of every life We live in faith and hope that one day the suffering will all be gone It all started with dream and today the dream still lives on