I can honestly say that October has been quite a bittersweet month for me. It started with birthday celebrations for myself and one of my fave co-workers; that was definitely the high point. It also has been ripe with financial mishaps, tons of work stress and various other happenings that would make a really juicy telenovela…Life.
Let’s just say that I have not been my most vibrant, positive self. I am often disappointed that I am not Wonder Woman and as a result, I can’t fix all the problems of the world. Is that a trait of all mothers or just my overly obsessive Scorpio moon tendencies? (p.s I am an astrology nut) . She is a badass, she has it all handled. I do on most days; on others as my nearest and dearest would agree I am a mess. We all are in some way, aren’t we? I openly embrace my messy; it is what makes us unique.
I found myself in desperate need of a spiritual pick me up and the Universe answered. Lucy Smith, a personal development coach and owner of Succeed Now reached out to me and encouraged me to sign up for her 5-day email challenge Take Control and Feel Free. I think she sent it two weeks ago. Hey, I still procrastinate. Procrastination another one of my messy traits. It is a work in progress. I decided to share this with you because I love spreading good vibes and you like me may be tired, stressed or just need a little boost. Hopefully, at the end of the challenge, you will get your mojo back.
Rediscovering Gratitude- Day One
Gratitude is such a simple and often overlooked concept . We seem to find it easier to focus on the drama and all that is going wrong; instead of just simply giving thanks for the good stuff. Trust me , even when everything appears to be shit there is always some tiny spark of light somewhere . You just have to look. I created a gratitude jar because I love anything simple and crafty. I found an old mason jar in the kitchen cupboard. I decorated it with a few stickers and started On October 30th. I plan to write one thing I am grateful for every day until the end of the year. I also incorporated day 2 of the 20 Day mental health challenge which asked us to journal 10 things we are grateful for and I dropped those in the jar as well .i find myself complaining a lot lately. I saw this as the perfect opportunity to shift focus to all the good things I have and all of the awesome people I am surrounded by.
Giving Your Words power by using I am affirmations- Day Two
The words you speak shape your life. How do you perceive yourself? What are your strengths? Do you believe that you are fabulous and capable of any and everything you desire? Day two encouraged me to envision and reinforce all the things I am and that I want to become. I used this as an opportunity to redefine my purpose and to celebrate the beauty of being a flawless yet divine being. It is a basic principle of life what you say and think you eventually become. We are often so discouraged and frustrated by the events of life we forget our power. Being the former art student that I am I took out my sketchbook and used this one as an excuse to draw. I pretty much wrote whatever came to mind. Lucy asked us to draft 10 affirmations and here are mine.
I AM : *abundantly blessed * loving and accepting of all of my flaws * a work in progress. Life was never meant to be perfect only to be enjoyed * healthy and vibrant * deserving of all the good things that life has to offer * determined to achieve all my goals * creating a life that I love *am strong and focused * open and accepting to change *successful *love and appreciate me
Mediation Is The Medication- Day Three
Mediation has been a part of my daily routine for approximately three years now. It is one of my favourite tools to calm the crazy I got started with and still am in love with guided meditations. Guided meditations are probably the only time that I can follow instructions or appreciate someone telling me what to do. Lucy recommends the following podcasts to get you started : One Mind Dharma Mindful In Minutes Tracks To Relax Insight Timer App
I usually find my videos on YouTube or I use one these following apps : Headspace Calm
Breethe Check out the healing benefits of meditation HERE. It takes a while to get into it but I find meditation to be very effective in keeping me centered and trust me it takes a lot to do that.
Building Confidence- Day Four
Learn to love and appreciate your abilities; that is the meaning of confidence. We all doubt ourselves and even the most solid and grounded of us have those moments where we feel less than confident. Lucy suggested visualizing every day and I totally endorse that. Visualize yourself as confident and living the life you desire. Visualizing helps me stay focused on my goals even when circumstances are less than ideal.
Crafting A Morning Routine- Day Five
Start the day on a positive note so that whatever transpires throughout the day can not really phase you. Wake up and do something you love, think happy thoughts. Listen to something that stirs your very soul. Get moving. Pray. Meditate. Make love. Whatever gets you feeling in touch with your soul. I long for a morning routine that does not involve me cursing my alarm and wishing it was Saturday. The morning routine that I strive for is a ten min meditation, ten minutes of yoga and listening to a ten-minute motivational track. For days when life does not go as planned; I downloaded some affirmation tracks on my phone to listen to during my walk to work. I find that at least one or a combination of these gets me in the right frame of mind to start the day.
This challenge was a breath of fresh air. The main thing that it taught me is that I have to be consistent. The journey to inner peace and balance is a continuous one and although life can get tricky we must continue to do the things that bring us joy and spark our spirits. You can find Lucy Smith on Succeed Now Or Facebook.
Mondays are the beginning. No matter where we are in life we have a chance to begin again. When we go through those tough times we often forget how resilient we are. We often forget that there is hope as long as there is life. I write this for myself as much I write for others. The troubles pass, the days get easier. Never forget life is a gift. Never forget Life is beautiful. You are a Divine creation and You are always loved.Click To Tweet
This is your reminder that everything will be alright The signs may say different but there is no need to fight The process, the present circumstances may not be ideal There is never a trial without a lesson, a blessing an opportunity to heal This is your reminder that everything will be alright It is just a moment, they always pass Stay grounded in the present the upheaval never lasts There is no need to fight the process, You are on the path to progress just you wait and see You may not like it, you may not love it but you are exactly where you need to be Like the dragonfly, the transformation will be inspiring Stay open to every possibility, these growing pains mean nothing It is all going to come together just you wait and see You may not love it, you may not like it but you are exactly where you need to be.
Hi there lovelies, Welcome to another instalment of the Sunday Soul Food Series. I don’t know about you guys but the past two months have been one emotional roller coaster ride. I blame the full moon and new moon being In Cancer. They are some deep and brooding souls. I have lost count of all of the times I have literally said I can’t this month. Then common sense kicked in and I realised whatever I speak will manifest. If I think I can’t then guess what I want . Have you guys ever felt that way like you just can’t deal with all of the ”stuff ” that life throws at you sometimes? Everything becomes so difficult and burdensome and a downright chore. You start to develop a defeatist attitude like maybe I should just lie here and not complete another damn thing. When you start to feel this way just consider these four thoughts before you start to utter another negative word or have another woe is me thought.
It never is as hopeless as you think.
How do you react when faced with difficulties will always be the determinant of your level of satisfaction or success. We all have struggles, setbacks, hiccups. Think about it. Was there ever anything you ever went through that you did not grow through? The bad break up, the job loss, paying off those bills. It sometimes feels like it is taking a century but at the end of the day the situation does change and you overcome it. Have you ever been so damaged by anything that you went through that you did not survive another day? If you are reading this then chances are the answer is a bit fat NO. The next time you are feeling that you can’t, remember those times that you slew those dragons, wrestled with those demons and you still came out victorious. Those thoughts will give you the encouragement and that little injection of empowerment that you need to keep pushing through.
The problem is not the problem. It is your attitude about the problem that is the problem.
Yes, I meant to rhyme there. That heading sure is a mouthful. You essentially attract the energy that you put out. Fretting, fussing, cussing, frustration only attracts more things for you to get upset about . Be the one that looks for the solutions in times of crisis and not the one that runs and panics . The world isn’t ending the sky isn’t falling . What you envision as the outcome is what you will get . Try to focus your energy not on the size of the issue or the seemingly tragic outcome , instead focus on how you can and will overcome it .
So maybe you want this one thing and you sat and you pictured it and you worked hard and still no results. What now? Do you give up or keep going ? in life, nothing rarely ever happens exactly how or when we want it to. When you make peace with that simple yet sometimes quite difficult fact; then you are halfway on the path to your dreams. We all get frustrated. we all want what we want and we want it now. I personally want to work four-hour days and retire at 40 and sip margaritas while laying on exotic beaches. We all have our dreams and aspirations. You will get what you want or maybe not. You will get something better. Life has a way of giving us what we need. Hold that vision and trust the process.
Sometimes when you think you can’t. You shouldn’t.
Have you ever had so much to do that you literally do not know where to start? I am the type of person that procrastinates when I have a lot to do. After the procrastination then comes panic and me wondering what I was thinking I committed to all this ‘stuff’ in the first place. You really cannot be everything to everyone. You really cannot keep going and giving and doing like the energiser bunny. He has unlimited reserves, you do not. Next time you feel like you can’t. Examine where you place your energy What and who you give your attention to. Pay attention to your body, your emotions. Have you been taking care of yourself as you should? Sometimes we just need to pause, declutter our mind, body and soul, Reevaluate our goals and most importantly; learn to say no to all the things that make us feel like crap. Just be with yourself. Recharge and rest. Always listen to your instincts they never ever lead you down the wrong path. Be kind to yourself always. Speak lovingly to and of yourself and turn that no I can’t intoYES I WILL.
Thoughts become things So what do you believe in? Do you listen to that little nag in your head that says ”You can’t do it ” or are you going to listen to that inner voice that screams Everything that you wanted can be yours You are doing your best. I am going to win.
How do you cope when feeling like you can’t What are some of the ways you stay motivated when life gets you down?
It was fun for a while , those playful days in the sun She thought he would be the one to always make her smile Sand flowed through her fingers She wanted to build something everlasting Put her heart and soul into it An unexpected wave came in and washed it all away Tried her hardest to salvage the ruins In the end he wouldn’t stay Grains of love remained , stuck to heart and stinging her eyes The remnants of their time together Memories replaying in her mind Some people are like sandcastles They aren’t meant to stay You have fun , you cherish the moments You build a masterpiece only to have it washed away This is the story of love and life You play with the fire and get burned 1000 times Feelings cut you like a knife This is the story of love and life Everything is temporary Not everything is meant to stay You build a beautiful sandcastle only to have it washed away
YouTube is such a wonderful space. I get lost there on several occasions. Don’t you? In fact, it is one of my main sources of inspiration. Check out my favourite channels that I visit for a little pick me up, advice and motivation.
My list would not be complete without this channel. I remember one night my mind was feeling so full I could barely concentrate. Something just told me to try meditation and I ended up on this channel. She had me at bliss in four minutes. Don’t think you have the patience for meditation. Trust me if I can do it anyone can. On this channel, she also covers exercise and total body health. Basically, it caters to your mind-body and spirit.
Yoga is one of my best-loved activities for balance and overall well-being. Never tried it: well check out this post to learn about all the benefits of yoga.I think everyone already knows about this channel but I had to include it. She has yoga for every mood, purpose and ailment, She also incorporates the use of affirmations and mantras. Her videos just leave me feeling oh so good.
What are some of your favourite YouTube channels? Share them in the comments below.
A reason, A season, A lesson, A blessing. Everything in life falls into these four categories, sometimes we have a cocktail of them all because what would life be if we did not have a shake-up once in a while? DO you believe in everything for a reason? Sometimes I have the unshakeable faith that everything will work out on other days I want to stay in bed and binge-watch my life away. How can we justify everything for a reason when the reasons seemingly make no sense. We are not here to judge life or fix it we are here to live it. Sometimes all we can do just live; especially when we consider that most of it is out of our control. We make mistakes.fall down, get up or just lie there. The reactions and your attitude really are all up to you. The time is going to pass anyway so make the best ofit. The most imperfect and dysfunctional moments often make the best stories.
What season are you currently in? An endless winter, a hot summer burn? Or is it hurricane season with no sunshine in sight? Whatever experiences you are having at this moment know that they are essential for your growth. Without challenges, without loss, we would never learn how to appreciate anything at all. Everyone and everything that you encounter has something to teach you. You may not get the lesson right away but the pieces of the puzzle always fall into place somehow. One day you will just have one of those aha moments and you will go…so that is why it happened that way. I had to go through this to get to this point. When you look back on all the things that made you sad, angry or crazy you will be stronger for it .
Remember if you aren’t learning you aren’t growing. Three years ago, after a fairly tumultuous relationship; I have to admit I was a sad and bitter mess. I looked in the mirror and literally wondered who was this staring back me. There had to be more to life than this pain because when you really and truly immerse yourself in another human being , the separation is so gut-wrenching. We have all been through it. It literally feels like it bruises your soul. Thoughts of what if and blame and guilt and all those emotions that typically I really do not want to deal with. Today I can look back on it and accept the lesson . It is no longer a bitter nasty pill for me to swallow but it taught me resilience and how to forgive. ( I also do not feel like setting his stuff on fire anymore).It took me such a long time not to take the actions of others personally. People will act how they act and they do what they do.At the end of the day, we are all trying to do our best. My part in it all is not to retaliate or react. I refuse to let anything threaten my peace. Karma is a mirror and I want nothing but good things coming back at me. Not everything you lose is a loss, you take the experiences as opportunities for growth. Look at yourself today, right this every minute at how far you have come, how much you have been through and you are still standing and dare I say you are pretty awesome too! Don’t get bitter, get better . Turn all of that fiery energy into something good. Make it work for you.
How do you view life? Is it a blessing or the bitch that stole your joy? Let’s put things in perspective with a simple checklist. Put your hand to your heart and feel it beating, are your breathing? Are you clothed?Are you loved? Then really you have all you need at this moment.Life is all about being in the now. Now is after all the only moment we have. Make today a day of appreciation. It can’t always be sunshine and rainbows but you can always find the strength and the wisdom to value all of the good that you have in your life. In a world full of dark clouds be a ray of sunshine. Some days you have to dig deep but always remain steadfast and find the light.
If it does not fit don’t force it Let it flow, set it free In this life, you can never lose or fail Just look within you will find everything you need It is never to late to be reborn, reinvent, write a new story Don’t fuel the fire of worry, Your happiness was never meant to buried, snuffed out by these burdens Life is a learning curve, a work in progress don’t ignore the lessons Regroup, reflect, shake it off When you feel like giving up Put on those big girl panties and as they say, try, try again. Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you deal with life challenges? Do you have a favourite quote or mantra that gets you through the tough times?
Share with us in the comments and remember YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Beautiful and Blessed Too dope to be stressed These ”problems ” do not define you Tension Anxiety Frustration These are not yours to carry Those who think you are unworthy, that is all at them Don’t let them determine your levels of happy It may feel off-balance, out of whack Shit may feel heavy It is just a temporary test A lesson learned What you have lost cannot compare the bounty that is forthcoming Better days are ahead Just trust and believe.
Written By Tachira Wiltshire… Aspiring giver of Love and Light
Weighed down by burdens left unseen They were never hers to carry why couldn’t she keep the slate clean Trying to do it all like Supergirl She could never win Feeling like she was failing at life ready to throw the towel in Giving away precious energy until it eroded her soul It was all so heavy, it got too heavy holding on to the old familiar faces the things that brought her comfort but stabbed at her psyche Dull and aching She longed for a taste of a new life Feeling trapped, caged, a prisoner in her own skin When did she become tethered The lioness wanted to growl but all she could muster was a whimper It was time to start over Allow, accept, and release Face it head on She had forgotten her strength Her inner goddess unamused Clawing to break free from the mental chains Somehow she conjured the strength to rediscover the magic buried deep inside She dug deep, no more suffering, no more doubts she would no longer hide Rediscovering her purpose Redefining her goals, basking in the dysfunctional beauty of the moment she was in She would grow to love herself again
I have a safe and comfortable home. I am grateful that there are no wars being fought here.
Have you ever owned a rock, pet rock, or gem that is not jewelry?
I used to collect rocks I found on the beach all of the time when I was younger. Now the only rocks I own are my crystals. They were specially chosen for my Sun Sign which is a Libra.
Are you a hugger or a non-hugger?
I don’t think I am much of a hugger; then again I am an introvert we tend to want to run from human interaction 🙂
What inspired you or what did you appreciate this past week?
My inspiration was simple. As I heard the news of my next door neighbor’s passing; I was reminded that I should enjoy each moment. We are well aware that we must die; however, we never get used to hearing the news of someone’s passing. Don’t spend your moments being miserable. Appreciate every single second you are given.
I have been nominated for the Sunshine Blogger Award by the beautiful Mikayla. She is a fellow island girl and a passionate vegan. I want to thank her for the nomination you can check out her blog at Caribbean Curl.
Sunshine Blogger Award Rules: 1. Thank blogger(s) who nominated you in a blog post and link back to their blog.
2. Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
3. Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.
4. List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog.
What is your favorite thing about blogging?
My favorite thing about blogging is being able to share my thoughts and ideas with others. I really enjoy interacting with my fellow bloggers they make the blogosphere feel like home.
Why did you start blogging? Any inspirations?
I started blogging because I just felt the urge to write and create. I find blogging to be quite therapeutic. My best friend who just happens to be a psychiatrist recommended that I start one; maybe she was trying to tell me that I need counseling who knows.
If you only had one word to describe your blog, what would it be?
Inspiring well hopefully that is what I aim for it to be.
Where are you from? Describe it.
I am from Barbados. A tiny island in the Caribbean. 166 square miles to be exact. Sun, sea, and sand are what we are all about. We don’t have the typical seasons here. Barbadians love good food, rum, and calypso. Beautiful beaches are the main highlight of the island. I would like to think that it makes up for the ridiculous cost of living here.
What is something that you are passionate about?
Anything that inspires me to be creative and to express myself. I have always loved drama and the arts.
Where is your happy place?
My happy place is the beach. I honestly could spend my entire life there. I just love the water.
If you had the chance to meet any celebrity/ influencer, who would it be?
I would love to meet PatrickStarrrI love his bold and bubbly personality. Not to mention his makeup is to die for.
Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
In ten years I want to be living in another country. I have not decided where yet. I will own my own business and be financially free.
What is your biggest fear?
I have a fear of drowning. I really should learn how toswim.
What is something you’ve been wanting to do but have been putting off?
I need to learn how to drive. I have been putting it off for years.
If you could travel in time, would you travel to the past or the future? Why?
I would travel to the future I want to see how the world turns out and if we actually achieve equality and make the world a better place.