A reason, A season, A lesson, A blessing. Everything in life falls into these four categories, sometimes we have a cocktail of them all because what would life be if we did not have a shake-up once in a while? DO you believe in everything for a reason? Sometimes I have the unshakeable faith that everything will work out on other days I want to stay in bed and binge-watch my life away. How can we justify everything for a reason when the reasons seemingly make no sense. We are not here to judge life or fix it we are here to live it. Sometimes all we can do just live; especially when we consider that most of it is out of our control. We make mistakes.fall down, get up or just lie there. The reactions and your attitude really are all up to you. The time is going to pass anyway so make the best ofit. The most imperfect and dysfunctional moments often make the best stories.
What season are you currently in? An endless winter, a hot summer burn? Or is it hurricane season with no sunshine in sight? Whatever experiences you are having at this moment know that they are essential for your growth. Without challenges, without loss, we would never learn how to appreciate anything at all. Everyone and everything that you encounter has something to teach you. You may not get the lesson right away but the pieces of the puzzle always fall into place somehow. One day you will just have one of those aha moments and you will go…so that is why it happened that way. I had to go through this to get to this point. When you look back on all the things that made you sad, angry or crazy you will be stronger for it .
Remember if you aren’t learning you aren’t growing. Three years ago, after a fairly tumultuous relationship; I have to admit I was a sad and bitter mess. I looked in the mirror and literally wondered who was this staring back me. There had to be more to life than this pain because when you really and truly immerse yourself in another human being , the separation is so gut-wrenching. We have all been through it. It literally feels like it bruises your soul. Thoughts of what if and blame and guilt and all those emotions that typically I really do not want to deal with. Today I can look back on it and accept the lesson . It is no longer a bitter nasty pill for me to swallow but it taught me resilience and how to forgive. ( I also do not feel like setting his stuff on fire anymore).It took me such a long time not to take the actions of others personally. People will act how they act and they do what they do.At the end of the day, we are all trying to do our best. My part in it all is not to retaliate or react. I refuse to let anything threaten my peace. Karma is a mirror and I want nothing but good things coming back at me. Not everything you lose is a loss, you take the experiences as opportunities for growth. Look at yourself today, right this every minute at how far you have come, how much you have been through and you are still standing and dare I say you are pretty awesome too! Don’t get bitter, get better . Turn all of that fiery energy into something good. Make it work for you.
How do you view life? Is it a blessing or the bitch that stole your joy? Let’s put things in perspective with a simple checklist. Put your hand to your heart and feel it beating, are your breathing? Are you clothed?Are you loved? Then really you have all you need at this moment.Life is all about being in the now. Now is after all the only moment we have. Make today a day of appreciation. It can’t always be sunshine and rainbows but you can always find the strength and the wisdom to value all of the good that you have in your life. In a world full of dark clouds be a ray of sunshine. Some days you have to dig deep but always remain steadfast and find the light.
If it does not fit don’t force it Let it flow, set it free In this life, you can never lose or fail Just look within you will find everything you need It is never to late to be reborn, reinvent, write a new story Don’t fuel the fire of worry, Your happiness was never meant to buried, snuffed out by these burdens Life is a learning curve, a work in progress don’t ignore the lessons Regroup, reflect, shake it off When you feel like giving up Put on those big girl panties and as they say, try, try again. Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you deal with life challenges? Do you have a favourite quote or mantra that gets you through the tough times?
Share with us in the comments and remember YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Some days we get so wound up and bent out of shape about things. Things are not going our way or so we think. Someone was rude and put us in a pissy mood. The rain poured, you got dumped, the wax lady messed up youreyebrows (maybe that would be a tragedy). All things we have absolutely no control over.
In life there are celebrations and triumphs and then well sometimes there is stuff that literally makes you feel like shit. Think about itthough, what did your fret or complain aboutyesterday? Is it still relevant today? Was it something you could change? If not you already have the answer right there. Let It Go. If it does not bring you peace let it go.
Let’s consider how quickly time is flying I mean life is literally passing us by. I swear it was just Christmas wasn’t it? How do you want to spend this life .? In a constant state of worry, regret, guilt, anxiety? As my therapist told me, I call her my therapist she is really a soul sister ”Tachira you got this one life. Get out of yourhead. Itisn’t that serious. Let it Go!
Whatever you have lost will be replaced by something better. Whatever is seemingly without a solution will besolved. It is always working out in yourfavour; even when it does not seem that way. So have a drink, eat somecake, binge-watch a show, go to the beach, ravish your lover, hug yourmama, cry, drop an f-bomb or several whatever it takes to get you in a good place.
This one life is what we were given to live joyfully, passionately. It may be a mess sometimes but it’s your mess. I firmly believe there is a flip side a bright side, a lesson in everything. Take a deep breath, laugh it off, cry it out; whatever you do. Just let all of the bullshit go. So I wrote this one for anyone who feels stuck or heavyladen. Remember you can get through anything. You are a badass. You are beautiful and blessed, waytoo awesome to be stressed. Stay in your magic. Give your soul a break and let it go.
I let go of the fucks and set myself free Disregard the chatter of your opinions of me Let the tension dissipate As I can finally breathe No longer defined by your insignificant boundaries I am what I am Repeat after me I am what I am Declare it boldly The energy of an entire universe flows through me Unshakeable, fierce you can’t mess with me Celebrate what you are Seize the power of the present Let go of the fucks and set yourself free.
Weighed down by burdens left unseen They were never hers to carry why couldn’t she keep the slate clean Trying to do it all like Supergirl She could never win Feeling like she was failing at life ready to throw the towel in Giving away precious energy until it eroded her soul It was all so heavy, it got too heavy holding on to the old familiar faces the things that brought her comfort but stabbed at her psyche Dull and aching She longed for a taste of a new life Feeling trapped, caged, a prisoner in her own skin When did she become tethered The lioness wanted to growl but all she could muster was a whimper It was time to start over Allow, accept, and release Face it head on She had forgotten her strength Her inner goddess unamused Clawing to break free from the mental chains Somehow she conjured the strength to rediscover the magic buried deep inside She dug deep, no more suffering, no more doubts she would no longer hide Rediscovering her purpose Redefining her goals, basking in the dysfunctional beauty of the moment she was in She would grow to love herself again
Resentment, regret they build up Layers and years of disappointments are parasites that feed on your core You can only hold on to it for so long before it wears you down Steals your inner peace The anger bubbles and it’s hard to control the beast Bitter, when did life become such a bitter pill You look in the mirror and you wonder where did the happy smiling version of you go Everything is dark and it all feels like hell You just don’t want to exist anymore Your burdens are crushing, your mind is a minefield There is no safe haven, no hand to hold Experiences, people have changed you until you become someone you used to know You have lost your sparkle, let them dull your shine until you have nothing left to show Depleted and drained It hurts too much to feel The very thing you are are holding on to is the thing you need to let go A cavity, an empty space, feeling hollow.
Sticking with the romance or as one of my readers said Fifty shades theme. I never finished the books. Anna annoyed me. I think maybe we all want someone to accept us as we are. Completely.
Quiet and unassuming The unexpected stallion rode her rugged Dominant, dark and intense she felt him to her core Tied up, stripped down Relentless passion He was her master She whispered ”Yes sir ” I want to fulfill your every desire ” He possessed her mind, body, and soul.
I have a safe and comfortable home. I am grateful that there are no wars being fought here.
Have you ever owned a rock, pet rock, or gem that is not jewelry?
I used to collect rocks I found on the beach all of the time when I was younger. Now the only rocks I own are my crystals. They were specially chosen for my Sun Sign which is a Libra.
Are you a hugger or a non-hugger?
I don’t think I am much of a hugger; then again I am an introvert we tend to want to run from human interaction 🙂
What inspired you or what did you appreciate this past week?
My inspiration was simple. As I heard the news of my next door neighbor’s passing; I was reminded that I should enjoy each moment. We are well aware that we must die; however, we never get used to hearing the news of someone’s passing. Don’t spend your moments being miserable. Appreciate every single second you are given.
In pursuit of the perfect life? Don’t hold your breath At the end of it, all the years seems like seconds a ripple in time Do you really want to waste your essence steeped in despair? Most days it feels as if you merely blink and like magic the hours disappear Don’t be on your deathbed and lament that you never really experienced life Seize the moments, make the best of it Ditch the bitchin and celebrate the fact that you are alive.
The rules only seem not apply to some Puzzling and frustrating are the inequities of this life Some can find a loophole in any sticky situation They just live to stir the pot and cause nothing but strife The dream and the goal is the pursuit of equality A celebration of what is fair and just To live in world where only good flourishes and no one has to struggle to survive Where kindness is automatic and we appreciate the value of every life We live in faith and hope that one day the suffering will all be gone It all started with dream and today the dream still lives on
I’m looking forward to…. being debt-free. A trip to New York City and Xio’s second birthday.
What is your favorite comfort snack food?
I have several but pizza wins. All that cheesy goodness 🙂
What was one of your first moneymaking jobs (other than babysitting or newspaper delivery)?
I used to bake rock cakes as we call them here in Barbados. It’s basically a larger, less refined version of a cookie. I think I sold them for 60 cents.
What inspired you or what did you appreciate this past week?
I must admit this year started off very rocky. I was in a major funk. I literally probably searched for every positive quote I could find. Sometimes I think we forget to check in with ourselves and be kind to ourselves so I did some yoga and meditation. I am going to share a short self-love meditation. This really helped my mood.
Dark and Potent Bewitching Wisps of your essence will haunt my soul for centuries Hooked after just one touch Your sensuous kisses melt my cold heart Set fire to my life with just one tiny spark You push my imagination to the limits Thrill me, excite me Bring me to life A fireball of passion, you evoke the magical energy that I have kept buried deep inside Written By Tachira Wiltshire