Turn a minus into a plus. Thoughts on the word No.


I can not tell you how many times I have heard the word NO.  “No, you can’t “‘

”No that is a bad idea or  No that won’t work ”

”No you don’t belong here ”    images

Being rejected can be so discouraging. I am sure you guys can relate. NO has to be one of the most fatalistic words in the English language.

Let’s be honest, at some point in our lives, we have wanted to ”fit in ” or belong. It is human nature to crave love and acceptance. In a perfect world, there would be no such thing as rejection. Meh, who needs your stinky approval anyway?

I always like to put a positive spin on everything. What we often perceive to be negative, in reality sometimes really isn’t that horrific.

Here is what the word No has taught me :

Not everything that we want is in our best interests.

The universe will slam a door in your face for your own well-being. Whatever you lose or is left behind was never for you. It took me years to get this. Many tears and failures and some really iffy relationships. Embrace the path that you are on. Even if that path is rocky and all you seem to do is stub your toe on all of those pesky obstacles that life puts in our paths.  images

Do not be so desperate for approval that you compromise yourself 

You are valuable. Your thoughts; opinions are valid. Do not settle, compromise or sell out just to be a part of something. The more you embrace who you really are.The happier you will be. The right people will show up. If your insides are screaming no, then trust your gut and don’t do it.

Rejection can give you a real dose of humility. It may knock you on your ass. While you are on the floor; it causes you to sit and examine what went wrong, and what you can do to improve yourself and your life.

Most criticism is just noise 

When I was younger I was such a little softie. I swear I used to take everything personally. I have learned when seeking advice to consider the source. Some people will have something negative to say no matter what the circumstance. Some will poo poo your ideas and they have never had an original idea in their life. Opinions are just that opinions. You just need to have faith in yourself and know in your heart what is right for you. Do you really want to spend your days living someone else’s life? Hell no.



When pursuing your goals you have to develop a tough skin. If we respond to every no, rejection, set back with a defeatist attitude; most of us probably would not get out of bed. Remember nothing ventured. Nothing gained. Perseverance is your best friend.

Rejection is there to teach us to be stronger, better and to try harder. To push ourselves past perceived limits.

Just ensure you surround yourself with a good support system this will help you through those rough days.

Don’t take one No (heck any no) as the final answer. Find ways to regroup, rebuild, revamp, research and review. Curve that negativity like Neo curved bullets in the Matrix.

Don’t try to fit in. No matter what you do. Do it with your own unique flair. If you can’t find a tribe. Build your own. We were all created uniquely for a reason. Never let anyone tell you how to be yourself.

Love and Blessings Tachi