Turn a minus into a plus. Thoughts on the word No.


I can not tell you how many times I have heard the word NO.  “No, you can’t “‘

”No that is a bad idea or  No that won’t work ”

”No you don’t belong here ”    images

Being rejected can be so discouraging. I am sure you guys can relate. NO has to be one of the most fatalistic words in the English language.

Let’s be honest, at some point in our lives, we have wanted to ”fit in ” or belong. It is human nature to crave love and acceptance. In a perfect world, there would be no such thing as rejection. Meh, who needs your stinky approval anyway?

I always like to put a positive spin on everything. What we often perceive to be negative, in reality sometimes really isn’t that horrific.

Here is what the word No has taught me :

Not everything that we want is in our best interests.

The universe will slam a door in your face for your own well-being. Whatever you lose or is left behind was never for you. It took me years to get this. Many tears and failures and some really iffy relationships. Embrace the path that you are on. Even if that path is rocky and all you seem to do is stub your toe on all of those pesky obstacles that life puts in our paths.  images

Do not be so desperate for approval that you compromise yourself 

You are valuable. Your thoughts; opinions are valid. Do not settle, compromise or sell out just to be a part of something. The more you embrace who you really are.The happier you will be. The right people will show up. If your insides are screaming no, then trust your gut and don’t do it.

Rejection can give you a real dose of humility. It may knock you on your ass. While you are on the floor; it causes you to sit and examine what went wrong, and what you can do to improve yourself and your life.

Most criticism is just noise 

When I was younger I was such a little softie. I swear I used to take everything personally. I have learned when seeking advice to consider the source. Some people will have something negative to say no matter what the circumstance. Some will poo poo your ideas and they have never had an original idea in their life. Opinions are just that opinions. You just need to have faith in yourself and know in your heart what is right for you. Do you really want to spend your days living someone else’s life? Hell no.



When pursuing your goals you have to develop a tough skin. If we respond to every no, rejection, set back with a defeatist attitude; most of us probably would not get out of bed. Remember nothing ventured. Nothing gained. Perseverance is your best friend.

Rejection is there to teach us to be stronger, better and to try harder. To push ourselves past perceived limits.

Just ensure you surround yourself with a good support system this will help you through those rough days.

Don’t take one No (heck any no) as the final answer. Find ways to regroup, rebuild, revamp, research and review. Curve that negativity like Neo curved bullets in the Matrix.

Don’t try to fit in. No matter what you do. Do it with your own unique flair. If you can’t find a tribe. Build your own. We were all created uniquely for a reason. Never let anyone tell you how to be yourself.

Love and Blessings Tachi




41 thoughts on “Turn a minus into a plus. Thoughts on the word No.

  1. I love this post! I totally agree certain things aren’t meant to happen-it’s the universe telling you what’s up haha. I am believer that things do happen for a reason and your time with come 🙂

  2. This was such a great read! I struggled with doubts myself and it often came from the word “no” or “you can’t” I had to force myself to stop listening and do what my heart told me.

  3. I have to remind myself all the time that no means something better is on the way! When a door closes, another even better one WILL open, I have to be patient and trust in the Lord.

  4. I was a total softie too when I was little. It can really break you down when you take everything to heart. What you said is so spot on, some people’s opinions and criticism should be taken with a grain of salt. Thank you for sharing, sometime I still need this reminder!

    • I think we all need the reminder but no matter how old we are some opinions still leave us feeling hurt and unsure . Thanks for commenting .

  5. Thanks so much Tashi! This is such a great thing to remember. When no’s happen, you just need to stay true to yourself and keep on swimming! As I was reading your post I kept relating it to different parts of my life where no’s have come into play and as I look back on them, I realized I’m so happy that they were there because I’m so happy with where I am now. Thanks so much for sharing this part of the journey with us. Much love!

  6. Along the way and through experience I’ve developed tough skin. However, hearing No is still discouraging at times. You are are right. Not everything we want is in our best interest. The key is to know the difference.

  7. hi 🙂 OMG! i wish my teenage self could have read this post. Everything you said resonated with me so much. I grew up pretty sheltered(and a little spoiled) and not really understanding the concept of “no” so when i first experienced rejection it was like a sucker punch. It took a while to understand and even embrace rejection because it means i just have to work even harder and succeeding is so much sweeter after countless rejections.

    • Thanks so much for your honest and heartfelt comment . If only we knew some of the things when we ere younger but life is all about learning and growth .

  8. Evelyn Lo Foreman says:

    Beautiful words of wisdom Tachi! Even Shakespeare couldn’t have said it better, “To thine own self be true.” When all else fails, the sky falls and my world comes crashing down, I will remember your precious words. Thank you for raising consciousness!! <3 xo Evelyn, PathofPresence.com

  9. This is a good reminder and something very important to think about! Makes me think about how much I use the word ‘no’ with my kiddos. I try to redirect them to things they CAN do instead of focusing on the things they CAN’T do or arent allowed to do.

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