Loyalty Or Self Sacrifice ? Be Loyal To Yourself First

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We all want someone we can rely on, a partner,  a lover who we can share our lives with. Somehow, being loyal appears to have become synonymous with taking shit . Has our modern way of life turned loyalty into self-sacrifice? I think, over time we have accepted doing the least, letting things slide and just half-assing relationships as the new normal.

I too have been guilty of giving my all for what I perceived to be real love. I remember being awake several nights ruminating; surely this was not what fairy tales are made of. I do believe that relationships require some form of compromise or minor sacrifice. However, if your significant other should never leave your soul feeling gutted. Some start off so sweetly and when it all ends they are the one holding the knife. Et Tu Brute?

 

 

As you look into the eyes of your once fascinating lover and wonder when did this magnificent creature become a beast? My poor deluded heart. Ugh . The jokes I could tell you about my past loves would seriously leave you deceased but let us not go there. Just thank the heavens we eventually wake up from the lust induced stupor.

What exactly do you gain from giving your all to a self-centered twit who cares nothing for you or your feelings? Your time is way too valuable. Just watch how quickly they will move on if you let them go.Stop treating yourself like a charity. Let your output match the input. After all, charitable work does result in good feelings.If you find yourself bitching constantly about how they do you wrong and how your effort is not being matched then take the advice of that Usher song and Just Let It Burn. No, I don’t mean setting their stuff on fire, although oddly enough that could be quite therapeutic.

Love should never leave you feeling hollow. Are you trading your loyalty for feeling broken, worthless and so distorted that you look in the mirror and wonder who is that weak bitch looking back at you? Is losing yourself really worth the illusion of companionship?

I am not strictly speaking of romantic relationships. Anyone who does not have your best interest at heart does not deserve your loyalty. I am speaking from experience; take my foolish advice and shower yourself with love. Be loyal to yourself first, you deserve nothing but the best. Do not tolerate anyone that openly disrespects you, shatters your inner peace and leaves your spirit tattered and torn all for the sake of loyalty.

Inspired by The Daily Prompt Loyal 

One day you will find something worthwhile until then don’t take no mess. What are your views on loyalty? We are open for discussion below 🙂

28 thoughts on “Loyalty Or Self Sacrifice ? Be Loyal To Yourself First

  1. I agree with the most part, but immediately thought of family members and how that loyalty is almost built in. Lots of food for thought. Great post!

  2. Sav | A Millennial Spirit says:

    You’re so right!! Your time is too valuable to waste on some self-centered loser! I obviously have just freshly learned that lesson, but I am super glad I did. I’d say my views on loyalty would be that I would give everything to my friends and family who deserve it. And I very quickly drop those people who don’t want to better society as a whole. I like to surround myself with people who want to make the world better and inspire me to want that too, which in turn makes us all better people.

    • I think we all have learned that lesson . The importance lies in not repeating it . You are so correct about surrounding yourself with kind hearted individuals . Thank you for taking the time to comment

  3. Thank you for this post! It’s really important for everyone to have self worth and really not let other people especially lovers take advantage go you. And like you said this isn’t just for lovers it can be any relationship in ones life!

  4. First and foremost, you have to be loyal to yourself. I don’t think of loving my partner as “I’m loving him out of loyalty.” Rather, I love him because he respects, cares, loves, listens, etc. to me. Mutual love and respect trumps loyalty any day.

  5. Great post. It is always important to be your own person and have loyal to yourself as much as you are loyal to others. I learned that the hard when just before graduating school this past June. It is a great way to learn self-worth

  6. Thank you for sharing your perspective on this! It’s extremely difficult, especially as a Christian who is taught that to love someone is to sacrifice yourself for them. I was just talking about this with my husband the other day. I have a great, healthy relationship with him, but I have a difficult and unhealthy relationship with someone else close to me. I know that in this case I need to be loyal to myself first and foremost.

    • Thank you very much for commenting . You are right sometimes we do sacrfice ourselves for those we love . In the long run though those unhealthy connections are damaging to your wellbeing . It may be very difficult but I agree you need to put yourself first in those types of situations

  7. Relationships are dynamic. It is a give and take. For me and my love, we have been together for over a dozen years now, and still, everyday, we begin with gratitude. For there, others thing flourish – like a life together, and loyalty. Thank you for your reminder that it begins with whats inside each of us. Blessings and grace, Evelyn <3 Light@PathofPresence.com

    • Thanks for your wonderful comnent 😁 you are so right everything begins with what is inside . You have to work in loving yourself first before you love someone else

  8. Sorry, it sounds like you have been in some tough relationship situations Tachi. You are a beautiful and amazing person, you deserve only the best. I truly feel that one must love themselves enough to feel of value and secure in who they are. This builds the inner strength needed to seek out balanced and healthy relationships in friends and romance. Love who you are!

    • Thanks Lisa .You are such a sweet lady . The post was not 100 % my experiences was speaking to one of my gfs about her current guy . That partly inspired it . Well the iffy relationships make for good poetry subjects lol . I agree with you totally love who you are ❤ Thanks for commenting

  9. Through bad romantic relationships and friendships I’ve learned to stop allowing others to disrespect me. It became exhausting and I was depleting myself of the love and respect I deserve. I’m glad I realized it and hope others do as well

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