I am a Bajan Budgetnista. Striving to be fabulous on a budget. An island girl working on being the best possible version of herself. Libra .Unicorn Lover .Dreamer . I speak of Beauty, Inspiration, Life and other musings. I write about what inspires me. Step into my world. Have a seat, chill. I hope you find something here that moves you . Love and Blessings. Tachi
Welcome, February the month of love, joy, and all that mushy goodness. As women, as mothers, we often become accustomed to focusing on the love we have for others We sometimes to forget to nourish the relationship we have with ourselves. When we are tired, stressed and generally off balance we cannot serve those that we cherish the most. Never forget you deserve alone time, you deserve to be pampered. Your opinions are valued and valuable. You are a goddess. Since this is the month of love how about you shower some extra care and attention on the one that matters the most: YOU!
The relationship you have with yourself is the core for every other connection that you have and will have in your life. This brought the question to mind what does self-love mean to you.? I asked a few of the wonderful and inspiring women that I know and these were their responses. This month this day and every day. Feel the love, spread love and be the love that you desire.
I am a unique creation. I see myself as one human being with a unique DNA that can’t be mixed up or mistaken for anyone else’s.I appreciate myself because of my uniqueness, the shape of my ass, the curves of my body, the light in my eyes when I am happy; are all unique to me. I know that I am beautiful just the way I am –Selena
Self Love to me is something that I am still learning. But part of it would be accepting the wrongs in my life that have happened and learning and growing from it. Not allowing negative energy to affect you and also noticing when unwanted energy is around and not compromising your vibe to accommodate theirs.
I believe it also involves taking time for yourself to refocus and indulge oneself. Doing what you love is also an integral part of self-love. Settling for whatever is there or available is not. I remember this job I had where my co-worker and I were talking about doing things we love and she said the job was her bread and butter so I said you know I don’t want bread and butter what I want are waffles and sausages with a glass of Oj. She watched me like I was crazy. I simply meant I do not ever intend to settle. Overall cultivating peace of mind is genuine self-love – Anonymous
Self-love means putting myself first. My needs. My wants. My happiness. Everything else after -Amanda
Being unpologetically myself and doing what is best for me despite what others may think . Saying no to anything and anyone that disrupts my peace and putting myself first when I need to -Alicia
Loving yourself above all others other than God and always know your worth because you are worthy. Love yourself first before you love someone else but don’t be selfish -Chicora
My idea of self-love is making decisions that make you comfortable and being at peace with whatever you do. There is a sense of freedom associated with it. Happiness is a state of being, it is dynamic, however, if we are comfortable there are more happy moments. This will extend to all parts of my life because I am a work in progress -Nicole
I decided to do a 14-day self -love challenge because I think we all need something to inspire us each and every day. These suggestions are by no means anything new but they serve as a reminder to be kind yourself so you can be kind to others. Do not feel guilty for saying no; for not feeling like it or for indulging because life is meant to be savored and enjoyed. Go ahead spoil yourself in the most simple ways or spectacular ways this and every month . These can be done in any order you like. Sometimes we just need a break and few moments to reset and remember how fabulously divine we truly are.
DAY ONE -Self Love Meditation. If mediation isn’t your thing try some self-love affirmations or a self-love prayer
DAY TWO- Self Love Yoga
DAY THREE -Take a nature walk
DAY FOUR – Take yourself on a date
DAY FIVE – Buy yourself flowers or chocolate
DAY SIX – Look into the mirror admire your beauty and say I LOVE YOU
DAY SEVEN- Make a list of 14 things you love about yourself . Get creative and make this a mini craft project.
DAY EIGHT -Treat yourself to your favorite beauty treatment
DAY NINE – Sleep in and have breakfast in bed
DAY TEN -Make time to read something romantic or inspiring
DAY ELEVEN -Start a birthday fund so you can splurge on your birthday
DAY TWELVE -Have impromptu dance session
DAY THIRTEEN -Write yourself a love letter
DAY FOURTEEN -Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and know that missteps only make you better and stronger.
This is a reminder to always stop and focus on the good each day. Find something to light your inner fire. This can not be said enough. You above all others deserve love, inner peace and happiness
Share in the comments -what does self -love mean to you and how to do make time in this busy world for yourself?
We often joke that January within itself feels like several months wrapped into one. I do not know what it is if it is the post-holiday blues or the fact that payday seems to take an eternity to come. Today is day 19 and I am pleased to say it does not feel like day 100. I also have not set any solid goals. I guess I am still a procrastinator or just really fond of taking my time 🙂
One thing I have decided is that year will be fabulous. I will take all the chances and say yes to all the things ( the things that make me feel good at least). Today and each day I will give thanks and try to release all of the beliefs, emotions, and connections that no longer serve me. I will be stronger, better and be more empowered today and each day for the rest of 2019.
Do you still have that feeling of newness or is just the same old story to you ? Know this you can begin, refocus, rewrite, reinvent yourself and refresh your point of view at any moment. If you need some motivation to get started on that dream, that plan or wish or to make space for something new here are ten quotes to get your mojo flowing.
This is your reminder that everything will be alright The signs may say different but there is no need to fight The process, the present the circumstances may not be ideal There is never a trial without a lesson, a blessing an opportunity to heal This is your reminder that everything will be alright It is just a moment they all pass There is no need to fight the process going through it will bring you progress Just wait and see You may not like it you may not love it but you are exactly where you need to be Like the dragonfly, the transformation will be inspiring Stay open to the possibilities, stay grounded These growing pains mean nothing You are exactly where you need to be. -Written By Tachi Wiltshire
What are some of your fave quotes about fresh starts? What are some of your goals for this year ?
Hi there Lovelies and welcome to my first entrepreneur feature for 201 9! I admire anyone who has a passion for what they do and I am also a serious product junkie so I knew that this company would be a perfect fit for this feature. I am all about that natural life and I think we should all be conscious of what we put on our bodies. I think we all can agree natural is the way to go. Check out Natural Body Essentials on Instagram and Facebook .
Meet The Boss Crafter Behind It All
My name is Rea Mclean, I am from Trinidad & Tobago. I’ve always loved creating things with my hands. I’ve always been interested in making candles actually, I would look at videos on Youtube about how it’s done. I could get lost for in it for hours. I then started watching videos on soapmaking and thought it was really cool. I had always wanted to try it but was always nervous somehow. After a few years of just watching videos and making all kinds of excuses, I saw an ad for classes teaching how to make candles and soap and I signed up. I learned so much more than I thought I would, not realizing that it would change my life.
When and why did you decide to start your business?
I started selling soaps and candles last year. It first started as a side hustle. Something to do on the side to make some extra money. Living on my own after going through some tough times I had to figure out how to keep afloat. I started to read more and educate myself more about what I was creating. I wanted to do something different not just make soaps but I wanted to make soaps that can really benefit my customers. So reading and testing out the soaps really allowed me to understand how it works.
So here I was making soaps and candles. Now my friends and family always encouraged me but I was always doubtful. So I had to put my doubts aside because I had to believe that God didn’t put me in this world to suffer. Something I started saying is, I refuse to be a victim of poverty. So I started to make more soaps more candles posting pictures online and on WhatsApp. It was slow for a while and probably because I wasn’t pushing myself hard enough. After losing my job I started to push harder. I added lip balms and deodorants to my line as well, and with the help and encouragement of my loved ones I created Natural Body Essentials. Now I must say that I have gotten it wrong at times as well and failure helps you to learn. Always remember to pick yourself up and keep moving forward.
What products do you offer and where can we find them?
At Natural Body Essential we create soaps, lotions, body butter, lip balms, deodorant, and candles as well. One of our soap lines is the Unscented Series- these soaps are designed for persons with any skin problems from, psoriasis, eczema, blemishes or sensitive skin. I’m really proud of this because a lot of people have skin problems and are looking for a solution to it; especially here in the West Indies. The products are made from natural ingredients and cured to ensure maximum results. That also goes for the luxury soaps as well. We have a page on Facebook and Instagram which gives an opportunity to interact with customers and people from all over the world. One of my dreams is to create a product line for hotels worldwide .
Natural Body Essentials to me embodies the perfect balance of passion and creativity. Being an entrepreneur is definitely challenging but with a positive attitude and a drive to succeed all things are possible. I think that is something we all can apply to our lives. Check them out if you are in need of some pampering, me time, looking for a gift or you need a natural product to add that extra breath of fresh air to your life.
What are some of your favourite essential oils and natural products?
Welcome 2019, 365 new chances, new opportunities, experiences, and adventures. 2018 was a blink and you miss it sort of year because I still feel like I am in summer somewhere on the beach listening to Kes singing Hello and pretending he made that song just for me. I have never been one to subscribe to the New year New me mantra; the process of self-improvement and development has never been a wave a magic wand type of thing. The newness , the fresh start comes when you open your eyes each day; when you give thanks and hopefully navigate whatever challenges, issues or problems that particular day throws at you or NOT. Let’s be honest some days you just aren’t feeling it we just don’t have it in us to kill it and really who says we have to? We were not created to be constantly seeking, doing, searching or forcing. There is no shame in wanting and needing a break. sometimes your soul absolutely deserves it.
Joy is the key to your life feeling good no matter what year it is -Sarah Prout
It took me quite a few years to grasp this concept. Life will be what it is. Golden, blah, messy what you really need to focus on is how you perceive it. Now I am not going to tell you to be positive all of the time. What I have learned is that you need to find bliss and liveliness even in the broken places.
There will always be a time when you feel like shit, when your energy will be depleted; when you will revel in feeling sorry for yourself ; when you literally may want to set your entire life on fire and watch it burn. Do you think having these moments or thoughts makes you a bad person? They sure as hell do not. There really is nothing sexy or appealing about perfection. Own your energy, revel in your mess. Do the very best with whatever you are given. The world does not need you picture perfect and and prim and proper. The world needs your rawness, the uncut and unedited version.
New beginnings I love them . I consider them to be one of my very best friends . Losing a familiar face or space may be distressing but nothing cripples you more than stagnation. Back to this New years thing . The first thing we think about with the new year is making resolutions . Resolutions I do not make them because I do not keep them . My attention span was not built for it . I do not see the need to put such pressure on myself . I think instead of resolutions we should all write a bucket list . Start with the simplest and end it with the most grandiose . I have decided to be a one day at a time sort of girl . Anything else puts to much pressure on myself and leaves me anxious and totally unbalanced . Let’s not be basic here go deep, get detailed , let your imagination run wild . Think about the things that stir your soul and pursue them with all you have got . One of my major issues has always been more thinking than doing. You can analyze a situation to death but if you never take the first step. What are we really doing?
The Moment you accept that imperfect is more beautiful and full of joy than perfect is a good moment-Unknown
This is my tentative plan for the New Year – Step One – let go of the picture of perfection Step Two – Never let the circumstances and I repeat ever deter me from achieving my goals. Step Three – Be grateful for every breath and find satisfaction in every moment. As you get older you realize that even the shitiest of people and situations all have a grand purpose. Life would not be very fullfilling without lessons. The hard times , the dark places only serve to make us grow and flourish .
How about thinking about what worked in 2018 and build from that. Work on being more consistent with your actions. Accept that despite your best efforts life does always have a way of screaming plot twist. Fall down, get back up gracefully and keep pushing forward even if you have to crawl. Life is all about movement and evolution. Be patient with yourself. Fab does not become fabulous overnight. We all have to start somewhere; the key is not to forget why you started and keeping on going no matter what. Here are a fewsimple reminders to help you stay on your path of growth and purpose.
You are responsible for your own energy
You are the gatekeeper of your thoughts, feelings, and energy. It is easier said than done but do not let the funky energy of others take a hold of your space. I am guilty and we have all been guilty of this at some point. We let the actions and words of others dictate our moods, our thoughts sometimes even our own self -worth. When you find yourself falling into this trap give yourself a big old slap literally . It is all about maintaining a good space.
Repeat after me : the thoughts and actions of others should never determine my direction. My energy is sacred and I choose to make space for what feels good and right for me .
Recognize your toxic traits . I mean we all have some qualities that can be downright annoying and sometimes self -destructive . Stop trying to bury your issues; as challenging as it can be you need to own those issues get to the root cause of your actions and do your very best not to be a shitty person. Give what you want to receive. At the end of the day, we all want that inner fire to be lit and to be happy. Unless of course, you find solace in misery.
Accept yourself completely
We all have flaws those seen and unseen. Things about ourselves that can cause issues in our daily lives . The key is to work on those bad habits each day. Spend time with yourself. Analyze your relationships, any problems, issues or scenarios that keep occurring. Accept responsibility for your actions. Sometimes pride gets in the way but you have to adult enough to say well I really f-ed that up and take steps to correct the mess that you have made. If you aren’t learning then you aren’t growing and to me, that is what self-acceptance is all about. You are ever changing and you must always celebrate the journey and give yourself credit for how much you have evolved in any given moment.
Learn to love your body I mean really appreciate it. The little things that we take for granted daily like being able to see, hear, and touch the ones you love. Love the skin you are in. The lopsided boobs, the crooked nose, the melanin that they think is too rich all of it and I mean all of it makes up the masterpiece that you are. Do what makes your body feel good. Nourish it. Savor it. We are all so busy but really what are we busy doing? Are we doing the things that matter? Like taking care of ourselves and out=r own needs and not belittling our significance? Looks really only can get you that far because no one really wants to hand with a pretty face if it comes with a vexatious personality. Don’t just focus on the outer beauty you have to ingest some soul food as well. I mean a perky butt does not hurt but a perky spirit is where it is at. It is time to say yes to yourself, with no apologies to anyone. Be in the moment , do the best you can and don’t beat yourself up if things fall apart. Let 2019 be the year of the unfiltered life. No matter how messy or tragic you may think your life is; trust and believe your light your sparkle your story your energy may be the reason someone smiles , is inspired and stays motivated to keep living a life that is true to them.
Forgive and Let Go
Let me be honest forgiveness is my least fave f-word or it used to be. Being unforgiving honestly is not a pretty picture. Anger, frustration, and bitterness are the definite end result. Remember the last time you really got upset? I mean fuming ? I myself rarely get angry because it is an emotion I feel in my soul. I usually act and then think later. At the moment when we feel wronged or offended; the ego just screams strike back, do them like they did you. Retaliate; that is the way to go. I have been petty. I have held grudges. I have been consumed with getting revenge. I have been the hell hath no fury chick. Where do you think it got me? Tired, depleted, angry and bordering on obsessed. You harm no one but yourself when you seek to right the ones that did you wrong . You can not heal pain by inflicting hurt, Nothing healthy can be achieved from seeking revenge. It may bring a temporary moment of satisfaction but ultimately you will have to deal with the underlying issues. You have to find ways to navigate through the waves of hurt, betrayal and intense disappointment. We all have had someone who has done us dirty . Who hurt us to our very core .
It is indeed extremely difficult not to take the actions of others personally but ultimately what they do is their karma . You have to decide what yours will be .. Decide to be the bigger person. Decide not to be as miserable as those that hurt you. We are not exempt from questionable behavior we are all capable of it . At the end of the day, we are doing the best we can. This statement does not excuse the shitty behavior of others ; in saying this we have to accept our part in the exchange. Let this be the year you put the burden of past hurts down. Set your soul free. Having said all of this remember the most significantt form of forgiveness we need to have is for ourselves. Let go of the feelings of failures and not-enoughness. You are an absolute badass and never forget it.
Yesterday is heavy . Put it down Every day make a conscious effort to let go of anything that makes you frown Your soul is tired give her a rest You are far from perfect but you did your best Pain is never healthy to carry around It will break your spirit leave you shattered The past is heavy put it down Don’t beat yourself up over should haves and could haves You did your best Grow through what you go through No situation is ever permanent This is just a test
The messes of today will lead to the triumphs of tomorrow . The past is not yours to carry . Lighten your load . Set yourself free . Yesterday is heavy . Put it down .
This really is not a New Year’s post this is a fresh start post . Fresh starts, evolution, transformation are the stuff that life is made of . 2019 will be the big and bold year. No filter .No apologies. Dedicate and celebrate every part of yourself and your journey. Be. Do . Inspire and Grow . Wishing you nothing but love and blessings . May this day , this year , this moment be the beginning of your wildest dreams. Never be ashamed of what works for you. This is your journey make is the boldest and most blissful that it can be.
Do you make New Years Resolutions ? What dreams and goals do you have for this year ?
I can honestly say that October has been quite a bittersweet month for me. It started with birthday celebrations for myself and one of my fave co-workers; that was definitely the high point. It also has been ripe with financial mishaps, tons of work stress and various other happenings that would make a really juicy telenovela…Life.
Let’s just say that I have not been my most vibrant, positive self. I am often disappointed that I am not Wonder Woman and as a result, I can’t fix all the problems of the world. Is that a trait of all mothers or just my overly obsessive Scorpio moon tendencies? (p.s I am an astrology nut) . She is a badass, she has it all handled. I do on most days; on others as my nearest and dearest would agree I am a mess. We all are in some way, aren’t we? I openly embrace my messy; it is what makes us unique.
I found myself in desperate need of a spiritual pick me up and the Universe answered. Lucy Smith, a personal development coach and owner of Succeed Now reached out to me and encouraged me to sign up for her 5-day email challenge Take Control and Feel Free. I think she sent it two weeks ago. Hey, I still procrastinate. Procrastination another one of my messy traits. It is a work in progress. I decided to share this with you because I love spreading good vibes and you like me may be tired, stressed or just need a little boost. Hopefully, at the end of the challenge, you will get your mojo back.
Rediscovering Gratitude- Day One
Gratitude is such a simple and often overlooked concept. We seem to find it easier to focus on the drama and all that is going wrong; instead of just simply giving thanks for the good stuff. Trust me, even when everything appears to be shit there is always some tiny spark of light somewhere . You just have to look. I created a gratitude jar because I love anything simple and crafty. I found an old mason jar in the kitchen cupboard. I decorated it with a few stickers and started On October 30th. I plan to write one thing I am grateful for every day until the end of the year. I also incorporated day 2 of the 20 Day mental health challenge which asked us to journal 10 things we are grateful for and I dropped those in the jar as well .i find myself complaining a lot lately. I saw this as the perfect opportunity to shift focus to all the good things I have and all of the awesome people I am surrounded by.
Giving Your Words power by using I am affirmations- Day Two
The words you speak shape your life. How do you perceive yourself? What are your strengths? Do you believe that you are fabulous and capable of any and everything you desire? Day two encouraged me to envision and reinforce all the things I am and that I want to become. I used this as an opportunity to redefine my purpose and to celebrate the beauty of being a flawless yet divine being. It is a basic principle of life what you say and think you eventually become. We are often so discouraged and frustrated by the events of life we forget our power. Being the former art student that I am I took out my sketchbook and used this one as an excuse to draw. I pretty much wrote whatever came to mind. Lucy asked us to draft 10 affirmations and here are mine.
I AM : *abundantly blessed * loving and accepting of all of my flaws * a work in progress. Life was never meant to be perfect only to be enjoyed * healthy and vibrant * deserving of all the good things that life has to offer * determined to achieve all my goals * creating a life that I love *am strong and focused * open and accepting to change *successful *love and appreciate me
Mediation Is The Medication- Day Three
Mediation has been a part of my daily routine for approximately three years now. It is one of my favourite tools to calm the crazy I got started with and still am in love with guided meditations. Guided meditations are probably the only time that I can follow instructions or appreciate someone telling me what to do. Lucy recommends the following podcasts to get you started : One Mind Dharma Mindful In Minutes Tracks To Relax Insight Timer App
I usually find my videos on YouTube or I use one these following apps : Headspace Calm
Breethe Check out the healing benefits of meditation HERE. It takes a while to get into it but I find meditation to be very effective in keeping me centered and trust me it takes a lot to do that.
Building Confidence- Day Four
Learn to love and appreciate your abilities; that is the meaning of confidence. We all doubt ourselves and even the most solid and grounded of us have those moments where we feel less than confident. Lucy suggested visualizing every day and I totally endorse that. Visualize yourself as confident and living the life you desire. Visualizing helps me stay focused on my goals even when circumstances are less than ideal.
Crafting A Morning Routine- Day Five
Start the day on a positive note so that whatever transpires throughout the day can not really phase you. Wake up and do something you love, think happy thoughts. Listen to something that stirs your very soul. Get moving. Pray. Meditate. Make love. Whatever gets you feeling in touch with your soul. I long for a morning routine that does not involve me cursing my alarm and wishing it was Saturday. The morning routine that I strive for is a ten min meditation, ten minutes of yoga and listening to a ten-minute motivational track. For days when life does not go as planned; I downloaded some affirmation tracks on my phone to listen to during my walk to work. I find that at least one or a combination of these gets me in the right frame of mind to start the day.
This challenge was a breath of fresh air. The main thing that it taught me is that I have to be consistent. The journey to inner peace and balance is a continuous one and although life can get tricky we must continue to do the things that bring us joy and spark our spirits. You can find Lucy Smith on Succeed Now Or Facebook.
Hi Everyone, Happy November, so far the month has started with rest and relaxation so I am thinking it can only get better . I am pleased to participate in my first ever round-up post. I am grateful to the lovely Laura Of DoFivethingsdaily for hosting this partner post and also to be featured with these wonderful and inspiring ladies. I love discovering new and exciting reads and I hope you show these ladies as much love as you have shown me through my blogging journey so far.
Jasmine is a SAHM to one boy, and wife to a former member of the USMC. When she isn’t blogging about parenting, relationships, beauty, or her lifestyle – she’s curled up with her cat watching HBO and planning her next move.
Brittany is the face behind Dreams + Coffee, a Tennessee lifestyle blog focused on family, fitness, healthy living and style. With a passion for staying fit, eating healthy, and pretending to know a thing or two about fashion, she enjoys sharing her favorite tips and finds with her blog community and inspiring them to always strive for a healthy balance in life. As a wife and stay at home mom to two girls, Brittany is living out her passion for writing and editing through her blog as well as through her career as a freelance writer.
Sarah is a wife of 13 years, mom to two kids (age 7 and 5), and an engineer, who uses her blog, Foxy’s Domestic Side, to document her creative side. She loves planning parties, crafting and all things beauty, fashion and hair. The engineer side of her likes to create super detail tutorials on how to do projects so that anyone can make it too. When she’s not creating, she likes going to the beach and spending as much time as possible with her family and friends.
Phoebe has been freelancing while living in Colombia for the past three years. After getting herself out of a bad relationship when she was 19, she promised to herself that she would only live for herself even if that meant not copying what everyone else was doing. Phoebe wants to inspire other millennials to live a life authentic to them. Whatever that may be!
Tachira loves to inspire others to live their best lives. On her blog Bajezen.blog she shares a unique mix of poetry, inspiration, and highlights of island life. a Barbadian by birth she has over ten years of customer service experience. when she is not blogging, writing or being creative; she loves spending tie with her daughter, baking and finding new and creative ways to express herself.
Laura is a big dreamer, full-time marketing manager, blogger, and part-time artist. She aspires to inspire people in their everyday lives and help them to live towards their dreams and making the most out of every day by sharing her own experiences and stories. Her blog, Do Five Things A Day, offers an eclectic mix of excitement, passion, and a story to tell of self-discovery, development and love. She focuses on topics about taking care of yourself, and learning to find beauty and light in every moment and adventure life has to bring us.
Hi there lovelies, It has been a while since I have been in this space. These past few months have been a mishmash of all things crazy. Highs and lows and everything in between. I found myself feeling quite stressed, uninspired and literally wanting to take a nap until the year ends. When I find myself feeling off-balance I always look for ways to get myself centered again because I am totally useless to those nearest and dearest to me when I am not functioning t my peak. Let’s face it none of us are.
We are fast approaching the end of the year; in my opinion the two busiest months of the entire year. I was so pleased when one of my sisters shared this Mental health Challenge on Facebook. I thought this is exactly what I need to add a little zen to my daily crazy. Why not start November on a positive note and recharge, renew and restore your spirit. You would be totally surprised at how a few simple changes can boost your mood and outlook on life .. Also maybe several cups of coffee and affirmation tracks on repeat.
I would absolutely love it if you join me in this challenge. I love the simplicity of it and it can be easily incorporated into even the most hectic of daily routines. Hit me up in the comments. Introduce yourself and let me know your plans, goals for the rest of the year. Only two more months to go Let-s end this one with a bang . Join me and have a Happy healthy November 🙂
Feel free to share with your friends and loved ones because everything is more fun with the ones you love.
Mondays are the beginning. No matter where we are in life we have a chance to begin again. When we go through those tough times we often forget how resilient we are. We often forget that there is hope as long as there is life. I write this for myself as much I write for others. The troubles pass, the days get easier. Never forget life is a gift. Never forget Life is beautiful. You are a Divine creation and You are always loved.Click To Tweet
This is your reminder that everything will be alright The signs may say different but there is no need to fight The process, the present circumstances may not be ideal There is never a trial without a lesson, a blessing an opportunity to heal This is your reminder that everything will be alright It is just a moment, they always pass Stay grounded in the present the upheaval never lasts There is no need to fight the process, You are on the path to progress just you wait and see You may not like it, you may not love it but you are exactly where you need to be Like the dragonfly, the transformation will be inspiring Stay open to every possibility, these growing pains mean nothing It is all going to come together just you wait and see You may not love it, you may not like it but you are exactly where you need to be.
Hi there lovelies, Welcome to another instalment of the Sunday Soul Food Series. I don’t know about you guys but the past two months have been one emotional roller coaster ride. I blame the full moon and new moon being In Cancer. They are some deep and brooding souls. I have lost count of all of the times I have literally said I can’t this month. Then common sense kicked in and I realised whatever I speak will manifest. If I think I can’t then guess what I want . Have you guys ever felt that way like you just can’t deal with all of the ”stuff ” that life throws at you sometimes? Everything becomes so difficult and burdensome and a downright chore. You start to develop a defeatist attitude like maybe I should just lie here and not complete another damn thing. When you start to feel this way just consider these four thoughts before you start to utter another negative word or have another woe is me thought.
It never is as hopeless as you think.
How do you react when faced with difficulties will always be the determinant of your level of satisfaction or success. We all have struggles, setbacks, hiccups. Think about it. Was there ever anything you ever went through that you did not grow through? The bad break up, the job loss, paying off those bills. It sometimes feels like it is taking a century but at the end of the day the situation does change and you overcome it. Have you ever been so damaged by anything that you went through that you did not survive another day? If you are reading this then chances are the answer is a bit fat NO. The next time you are feeling that you can’t, remember those times that you slew those dragons, wrestled with those demons and you still came out victorious. Those thoughts will give you the encouragement and that little injection of empowerment that you need to keep pushing through.
The problem is not the problem. It is your attitude about the problem that is the problem.
Yes, I meant to rhyme there. That heading sure is a mouthful. You essentially attract the energy that you put out. Fretting, fussing, cussing, frustration only attracts more things for you to get upset about . Be the one that looks for the solutions in times of crisis and not the one that runs and panics . The world isn’t ending the sky isn’t falling . What you envision as the outcome is what you will get . Try to focus your energy not on the size of the issue or the seemingly tragic outcome , instead focus on how you can and will overcome it .
So maybe you want this one thing and you sat and you pictured it and you worked hard and still no results. What now? Do you give up or keep going ? in life, nothing rarely ever happens exactly how or when we want it to. When you make peace with that simple yet sometimes quite difficult fact; then you are halfway on the path to your dreams. We all get frustrated. we all want what we want and we want it now. I personally want to work four-hour days and retire at 40 and sip margaritas while laying on exotic beaches. We all have our dreams and aspirations. You will get what you want or maybe not. You will get something better. Life has a way of giving us what we need. Hold that vision and trust the process.
Sometimes when you think you can’t. You shouldn’t.
Have you ever had so much to do that you literally do not know where to start? I am the type of person that procrastinates when I have a lot to do. After the procrastination then comes panic and me wondering what I was thinking I committed to all this ‘stuff’ in the first place. You really cannot be everything to everyone. You really cannot keep going and giving and doing like the energiser bunny. He has unlimited reserves, you do not. Next time you feel like you can’t. Examine where you place your energy What and who you give your attention to. Pay attention to your body, your emotions. Have you been taking care of yourself as you should? Sometimes we just need to pause, declutter our mind, body and soul, Reevaluate our goals and most importantly; learn to say no to all the things that make us feel like crap. Just be with yourself. Recharge and rest. Always listen to your instincts they never ever lead you down the wrong path. Be kind to yourself always. Speak lovingly to and of yourself and turn that no I can’t intoYES I WILL.
Thoughts become things So what do you believe in? Do you listen to that little nag in your head that says ”You can’t do it ” or are you going to listen to that inner voice that screams Everything that you wanted can be yours You are doing your best. I am going to win.
How do you cope when feeling like you can’t What are some of the ways you stay motivated when life gets you down?