Life Can Be Messy :Sunday SoulFood Series

Hi, there lovelies  Happy and Blessed Sunday to all of you beautiful souls.

 

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Something about Sundays reverberates quiet reflection for me. For some it is a day of worship, for others, it just screams fun in the sun. If you are lucky you have the day off from work. I remember two years of working Sundays, for me that was just so disrespectful lol but hey one must pay the bills, feed the family and also my mild shopping addiction.  Whatever your Sunday entails; how about you ask yourself today, What can I do to make life better for me? Be totally selfish. You deserve it. Somehow our souls always have the answers, we know what needs to be done but yet we often times feel guilty about saying no or maybe just disappearing for a few hours for a recharge. Take a few minutes today to do something that brings you joy. Absolutely no excuses. Even if it is just buying yourself an ice cream cone and pretending that you are a toddler again with not a care in this world. Simply reflect on this past week and what made it great, even if it wasn’t so great to use your imagination it can lead you to some wonderful places. As usual, I leave you with one of my poems. Hopefully, it inspires you, sparks some food for thought or simply let it be a few seconds to escape from it all. 

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Life can be messy 

You have to choose your battles wisely

Are you going to walk around with a weight on your shoulders?

No wonder you are tired 

Worry does make the air so thick and heavy 

It can become stifling, crippling, gripping you so tightly that your forget t breathe 

In any situation you have three options :

Stress about it, Accept it or if you just can’t deal then carry on smartly 

No need for revenge, resentment or  regret 

We have no space to encourage and foster that bad energy 

Work on your own shit 

Don’t  watch others are doing 

Work on where you place your focus 

Sometimes you trip, you most definitely will fall 

No shame in faltering as long as you get back up again 

Be brave enough to choose yourself 

Pick your battles, Keep your glow up 

In this life you need to choose your battles wisely

If it does not bring you peace then it isn’t for you 

Put one foot in front of the other, let it go, move on from the darkness 

Sometimes you just need to say to hell with it and walk away 

Pick your battles, know your worth and carry on smartly 

Written By Tachira Wiltshire 

How do you deal with life’s messes? What brings you joy? 

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Trust The Flow

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When I was younger, I always saw endings as a tragedy
They induced panic, caused tears.

So dramatic I was
I always thought they were the end of me
As I grew older and mastered the skill of letting things go
I realised that faith would guide me
The things that fall away were only meant to be there for a moment
The disappointments, the rejections they do not define me
The pain , the upset the messy moments
They all come together to help you grow
So what if it is over? It was fun for the while

The time has come to let it go
Endings don’t have to be sad
It may have been good but better will come
Have faith, take  that leap
Welcome all possibilities with open arms
Let go and let it flow. 

Written By Tachira Wiltshire 

 

Fill Your Own Cup First

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Sometimes, we all have our weak moments. You guys can relate I am sure, You know the ones where you get down on yourself because you think maybe, just maybe you are falling behind or your life is not going according to your best-laid plans. I came up with this one after a meditation. I totally love when inspiration hits me from nowhere.  This is a reminder for myself as well as anyone who needs it. You are a precious gift to this world. Never forget to .. Cherish yourself, take care of your inner needs and take exquisite care of yourself. 

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You do not have to be defined by your experiences
You do not have to be tethered to your past
Take things one day at a time
Work on enjoying this moment
Take a deep breath
Feel your body fill with calm and contentment
Smile and believe, any moment,  this very moment can be your fresh start.

Start as many times as you need to
Be patient with yourself
Love yourself relentlessly
Your energy, your vibe your soul that is your wealth
Take time to unplug, decompress, chuck it all
to  just be and spend some time with yourself
You have the power to be whatever you want to be and not be defined externals 
Focus on you , fill your own damn cup for once
It is never selfish, only foolish not to pour all of the love you have into yourself

 

Written By Tachira Wiltshire 

How do you show yourself, Love?  What is your favourite self-care activity? 

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Be Still : 5 Affirmations For When You Are Feeling Overwhelmed

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Surrender to the moment.
Just let it be. Whatever it is.
Don’t force it. Don’t judge it.
Don’t fear it. Just feel it.
Accept it. Just be it. Just Live.

 

 

Sometimes I long for simple days.  The days when all I had to do was concern myself with what I wanted to eat for lunch. Just maybe I miss being a toddler. I envy my daughter sometimes, such a carefree unbridled bundle of energy. Some days as much as I hate to admit it; life is synonymous with overwhelm. We take on everything. We take on far too much until we feel like we have the weight of the entire Universe on our shoulders.
It is safe to say sometimes I think this adulting business can miss me. I just want to be like a toddler and run around in my underwear and do whatever my little heart desires.

 

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The bills are due and you are sitting there thinking about tomorrow and all of the things that you have to do. I don’t know about you but I am sick of to do lists. Yes, they keep us organised but they also keep us busy. So busy that we forget that we were not created to do stuff all the time. We were created to be joyful and carefree and to just simply be.

Anyone out there ever had an anxiety attack? I really do not know how to describe it. The walls are closing in. You are trying your best to keep shit together.Keep it all together. I am that kind of woman. I want to do it all and I want to do it all alone. Of course, I know this is not logical but as much as we resist we are all affected by the pressures of daily life at some point.
When I get anxious, I literally forget to breathe. I think most of my anxiousness is brought on by my endless need for mental to-do lists. Things are not how I want them to be or maybe I have so many things I “must do”. My mind is not present and I am trying to live oh so many moments at once.

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All the trivial things you worry about can make u manic.What are you doing? Living for next week next month next year? Or are you beating yourself up for something you did or did not do last year? We often forget that all we ever really have is now. Have you ever been overwhelmed? Truly overwhelmed? During these periods of overwhelm so many mixed emotions can arise. None of them, at least in my case are ever anything good. Self-doubt, fear, shame they all come crashing down like thunderstorms. Even for the strong ones, it can be too much to bear. I strongly believe in the immensely beautiful power of words ;so I came up  with five affirmations that can help you reset and refocus your mind when you are overwhelmed.
 We all have those days when we feel like the world is against us.

 

 

Sometimes you just need a reminder to think happy thoughts and JUST BREATHE.

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We all have those days when we forget how awesome we are. Do not place your value in the hands of those who do not appreciate you You are a STAR. Don’t you ever forget it .  Nip those feelings of unworthiness in the bud with this affirmation. 

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As one of my good friends said just today as much self -love you have there are things that happen that will shake you ,that will sting a little.We are after all perfectly imperfectly.  All you can do is take life’s challenges in stride. Keep your head held high and march forward t the future you have envisioned. Just remember no matter what you are confident and strong and you have got this. 

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Most importantly;  Life for today for this moment.  Stop looking back and stay focused on the prize.

 

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Do you believe in the power of affirmations?What are some of your favourite ones and how do you deal when you are feeling overwhelmed? Share in the comments below.

Love and Blessings Tachi 

5 YouTube Channels That Add An Instant Dose Of Optimism To My Day

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YouTube is such a wonderful space. I get lost there on several occasions. Don’t you? In fact, it is one of my main sources of inspiration. Check out my favourite channels that I visit for a little pick me up, advice and motivation.

 

 

YouAreCreators 

Need help manifesting? Need a reminder of how awesome you are? Then this is the channel for you. Here is your reminder that you create your own reality. 

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HayHouse 

 

There is so much positivity packed into this one space. Mediations, pep talks, motivation and so much more. 

 

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The Honest Guys 

 

This channel is one of my many nighttime sleep aids.  It isn’t just for night-time though. Anytime you get a bout of monkey mind and your brain needs a rest you can find something here to serve you. 

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Rebekah  Borucki -BexLife

My list would not be complete without this channel. I remember one night my mind was feeling so full I could barely concentrate. Something just told me to try meditation and I ended up on this channel. She had me at bliss in four minutes. Don’t think you have the patience for meditation. Trust me if I can do it anyone can.  On this channel, she also covers exercise and total body health. Basically, it caters to your mind-body and spirit. 

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Yoga With Adriene 

 

Yoga is one of my best-loved activities for balance and overall well-being. Never tried it: well check out this post to learn about all the benefits of yoga. I think everyone already knows about this channel but I had to include it. She has yoga for every mood, purpose and ailment, She also incorporates the use of affirmations and mantras. Her videos just leave me feeling oh so good.

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What are some of your favourite YouTube channels?  Share them in the comments below. 

Stay Slaying Through All Of Life’s Seasons #makeyourownsunshine

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A reason, A season, A lesson, A blessing. Everything in life falls into these four categories, sometimes we have a cocktail of them all because what would life be if we did not have a shake-up once in a while?
DO you believe in everything for a reason? Sometimes I have the unshakeable faith that everything will work out on other days I want to stay in bed and binge-watch my life away. How can we justify everything for a reason when the reasons seemingly make no sense. We are not here to judge life or fix it we are here to live it.  Sometimes all we can do just live; especially when we consider that most of it is out of our control.  We make mistakes.fall down, get up or just lie there. The reactions and your attitude really are all up to you.  The time is going to pass anyway so make the best of it. The most imperfect and dysfunctional moments often make the best stories. 

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What season are you currently in? An endless winter, a hot summer burn? Or is it hurricane season with no sunshine in sight? Whatever experiences you are having at this moment  know that they are essential for your growth.  Without challenges, without loss, we would never learn how to appreciate anything at all. Everyone and everything that you encounter has something to teach you. You may not get the lesson right away but the pieces of the puzzle always fall into place somehow. One day you will just have one of those aha moments and you will go…so  that is why it happened that way. I had to go through this to get to this point. When you look back on all the things that made you sad, angry or crazy you will be stronger for it .

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Remember if you aren’t learning you aren’t growing. Three years ago, after a fairly tumultuous relationship; I have to admit I was a sad and bitter mess. I looked in the mirror and literally wondered who was this staring back me. There had to be more to life than this pain because when you really and truly immerse yourself in another human being , the separation is so gut-wrenching.  We have all been through it. It literally feels like it bruises your soul. Thoughts of what if and blame and guilt and all those emotions that typically I really do not want to deal with. Today I can look back on it and accept the lesson . It is no longer a bitter nasty pill for me to swallow but it taught me resilience and how to forgive. ( I also do not feel like setting his stuff on fire anymore).It took me such a long time not to take the actions of others personally. People will act how they act and they do what they do.At the end of the day, we are all trying to do our best. My part in it all is not to retaliate or react. I refuse to let anything threaten my peace. Karma is a mirror and I want nothing but good things coming back at me. Not everything you lose is a loss, you take the experiences as opportunities for growth. Look at yourself today, right this every minute at how far you have come, how much you have been through and you are still standing and dare I say you are pretty awesome too!  Don’t get bitter, get better . Turn all of that fiery energy into something good. Make it work for you.

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How do you view life? Is it a blessing or the bitch that stole your joy? Let’s put things in perspective with a simple checklist. Put your hand to your heart and feel it beating, are your breathing? Are you clothed?Are you loved? Then really you have all you need at this moment.Life is all about being in the now. Now is after all the only moment we have.  Make today a day of appreciation.  It can’t always be sunshine and rainbows but you can always find the strength and the wisdom to value all of the good that you have in your life. In a world full of dark clouds be a ray of sunshine. Some days you have to dig deep but always remain steadfast and find the light.  

If it does not fit don’t force it
Let it flow, set it free
In this life, you can never lose or fail
Just look within you will find everything you need
It is never to late to be reborn, reinvent, write a new story
Don’t fuel the fire of worry,
Your happiness was never meant to buried, snuffed out by these burdens
Life is a learning curve, a  work in progress don’t ignore the lessons
Regroup, reflect, shake it off
When you feel like giving up
Put on those big girl panties and as they say, try, try again.
Written By Tachira Wiltshire
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How do you deal with life challenges? Do you have a favourite quote or mantra that gets you through the tough times? 

Share with us in the comments and remember YOU ARE ENOUGH. 

Set Yourself Free : Take A Deep Breath And Let It Go

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Some days we get so wound up and bent out of shape about things. Things are not going our way or so we think.  Someone was rude and put us in a pissy mood.  The rain poured, you got dumped, the wax lady messed up your eyebrows (maybe that would be a tragedy). All things we have absolutely no control over. 

 In life there are celebrations and triumphs and then well sometimes there is stuff that literally makes you feel like shit. Think about it though, what did your fret or complain about yesterday? Is it still relevant today? Was it something you could change? If not you already have the answer right there. Let It Go. If it does not bring you peace let it go. 

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Let’s consider how quickly time is flying I mean life is literally passing us by. I swear it was just Christmas wasn’t it? How do you want to spend this life .? In a constant state of worry, regret, guilt, anxiety?  As my therapist told me, I call her my therapist she is really a soul sister ”Tachira you got this one life.   Get out of your head. It isn’t that serious. Let it Go! 

Whatever you have lost will be replaced by something better. Whatever is seemingly without a solution will be solvedIt is always working out in your favour; even when it does not seem that way. So have a drinkeat some cake, binge-watch a show, go to the beach, ravish your lover, hug your mama, cry, drop an f-bomb or several whatever it takes to get you in a good place. 

This one life is what we were given to live joyfully, passionately. It may be a mess sometimes but it’s your mess.  I firmly believe there is a flip side a bright side, a lesson in everything. Take a deep breath, laugh it off, cry it out; whatever you do. Just let all of the bullshit go.  So I wrote this one for anyone who feels stuck or heavy laden. Remember you can get through anything. You are a badass. You are beautiful and blessed, way too awesome to be stressed. Stay in your magic. Give your soul a break and let it go.

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I let go of the fucks and set myself free
Disregard the chatter of your opinions of me
Let the tension dissipate
As I can finally breathe
No longer defined by your insignificant boundaries
I am what I am
Repeat after me I am what I am
Declare it boldly
The energy of an entire universe flows through me
Unshakeable, fierce you can’t mess with me
Celebrate what you are
Seize the power of the present
Let go of the fucks and set yourself free. 

Written By Tachira Wiltshire 

 

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#Press For Progress . A Tribute To Women

On March 8th we celebrate  International Women’ s Day. This years’ theme is #pressforprogress . I look forward to the day when all women can be afforded the opportunity to live up to their true potential. The day when we will not be judged or labelled for how we chose to live our lives. We all wonder women . We are all beautiful in our own right; with our unique stories and gifts. We are women, a source of unlimited resilience. Love and the utmost respect due to every female on the planet. Never let anything dull your sparkle and remember whatever you are going through. You got this boo. There is nothing that a woman can not handle. Channel your inner goddess. Equality is a right. Let no one ever make you feel unworthy because you are the giver of life. To be feminine is to be divine.

 

We are the mothers, the creators, the lovers
The backbone of society
Built to endure any strenuous task
Nothing is ever impossible
Never a tough ask
Underestimated, abused, threatened, perceived as the weaker sex
We break down all the barriers and cry out against the injustices
You can not rule our bodies, our souls, our spirits,  our minds
By your misguided standards of beauty and intelligence, we will never be defined
Empowered,
We are more intense, complex and beautiful than you will ever know
It’s 2018, fuck your outdated standards believes and  judgments
We will not be suppressed and objectified
We are women. the catalysts for change
A force to be reckoned with,  together we stand
Fueled by the fire and passion for equal rights

#PressforProgress

Rise goddesses,, unshakeable divine and full of light.

Written By Tachira Wiltshire 

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Brighter Days Ahead .. Inspiration , Motivation and Feel Good Ish

 

Beautiful and Blessed
Too dope to be stressed
These ”problems ” do not define you
Tension
Anxiety
Frustration
These are not yours to carry
Those who think you are unworthy, that is all at them
Don’t let them determine your levels of happy
It may feel off-balance, out of whack
Shit may feel heavy
It is just a temporary test
A lesson learned
What you have lost cannot compare the bounty that is forthcoming
Better days are ahead
Just trust and believe.

Written By Tachira Wiltshire…  Aspiring giver of Love and Light  

Love Is In The Air : First Love Yourself

 

Love is in the Air. Valentine’s day and all of that is just a money making affair in my opinion. Flowers, dinner, and gifts are nice but really do you only care once a year?I think we often place too much emphasis on specific occasions and days. Every day is a special occasion as long as you are alive.   Today I read in one of my newsletters; Love is what remains after the butterflies have settled and the waves of lust have abated.

 

We often make love conditional by letting our egos get in the way. Some people can make relationships all about them and their needs. Love knows no selfishness or abuse. It builds you up it wraps and you in a cocoon of nurturing bliss. Nothing is perfect. Let’s face it relationships take compromise and work to keep the flame burning. It takes patience and tolerance to love and share your world with another and to accept them as they are; even when they get on your nerves or do that thing you don’t like and you want to choke them.

Love is a form of all-encompassing acceptance but that in no way means you should tolerate any mess. If it does not bring you peace then let it go. Often times letting go can be the ultimate expression of love. Let go of criticising, nitpicking, trying to change the other person. Let go of all the things that hold you back from being at peace with yourself.
Not everyone loves the same way. Not everyone you meet is supposed to stay. The breakups and the makeups are all a part of the process. so what if you are single on valentines day? Why would that cause you distress? Are you seeking someone who will love you the right way? It all starts with you. Look in the mirror, single or taken know that you are special. The opinions of others do not and will never define your worth. Do something every day to remind yourself of the fabulous being that you are.

Share your essence and your light in an authentic way. Just be open to everything, to life itself. Work on your body, mind, and soul. Focus on your health. Don’t strive for perfection just do the best you can with every moment. Don’t feel loved? Never forget you are loved. We were designed to love. That source of loving energy is inside all of us.
Just take a look at a rainbow, a sunset, the ocean and bask in their beauty. Be at peace with nature and you will never doubt the existence of love.
Love does not merely exist within romantic boundaries. Anytime you are kind to another individual that is an act of love. I believe in simplicity. random acts of kindness to me are some of the best expressions of love A hug, a kiss, a love note or text just because. Even sharing your food now that is what love is all about. Nothing says I love you quite like a home cooked meal or baked goods. I like making cakes for those that are special to me. Nothing brings out the happy moments quite like cake.

I think at the end of the day most of us would prefer time or effort over things. So whenever you can do something mundane for the ones you love. Whether it’s helping them with chores or treating them to a massage or even sitting in silence (no phones ) and enjoying their company. Less is more. Just expressing gratitude for having someone in your life can make their day. Tell them they are awesome. show them you are their number one fan.
Love begins with you. Know that you are and will always be enough. a divine piece of the universe. An undying energy, a wellspring of love. Tap into that love. Love is the air. Just do that damn thing and love yourself. Be the love you seek. Exude it. Let go of the expectations. Never give to get. You are worthy exactly as you are .

 

What are some of your favorite ways to express love for yourself and others? I love hearing from you. Love and Blessings Tachi