Hi there lovelies, Welcome to another instalment of the Sunday Soul Food Series. I don’t know about you guys but the past two months have been one emotional roller coaster ride. I blame the full moon and new moon being In Cancer. They are some deep and brooding souls. I have lost count of all of the times I have literally said I can’t this month. Then common sense kicked in and I realised whatever I speak will manifest. If I think I can’t then guess what I want . Have you guys ever felt that way like you just can’t deal with all of the ”stuff ” that life throws at you sometimes? Everything becomes so difficult and burdensome and a downright chore. You start to develop a defeatist attitude like maybe I should just lie here and not complete another damn thing. When you start to feel this way just consider these four thoughts before you start to utter another negative word or have another woe is me thought.
It never is as hopeless as you think.
How do you react when faced with difficulties will always be the determinant of your level of satisfaction or success. We all have struggles, setbacks, hiccups. Think about it. Was there ever anything you ever went through that you did not grow through? The bad break up, the job loss, paying off those bills. It sometimes feels like it is taking a century but at the end of the day the situation does change and you overcome it. Have you ever been so damaged by anything that you went through that you did not survive another day? If you are reading this then chances are the answer is a bit fat NO. The next time you are feeling that you can’t, remember those times that you slew those dragons, wrestled with those demons and you still came out victorious. Those thoughts will give you the encouragement and that little injection of empowerment that you need to keep pushing through.
The problem is not the problem. It is your attitude about the problem that is the problem.
Yes, I meant to rhyme there. That heading sure is a mouthful. You essentially attract the energy that you put out. Fretting, fussing, cussing, frustration only attracts more things for you to get upset about . Be the one that looks for the solutions in times of crisis and not the one that runs and panics . The world isn’t ending the sky isn’t falling . What you envision as the outcome is what you will get . Try to focus your energy not on the size of the issue or the seemingly tragic outcome , instead focus on how you can and will overcome it .
So maybe you want this one thing and you sat and you pictured it and you worked hard and still no results. What now? Do you give up or keep going ? in life, nothing rarely ever happens exactly how or when we want it to. When you make peace with that simple yet sometimes quite difficult fact; then you are halfway on the path to your dreams. We all get frustrated. we all want what we want and we want it now. I personally want to work four-hour days and retire at 40 and sip margaritas while laying on exotic beaches. We all have our dreams and aspirations. You will get what you want or maybe not. You will get something better. Life has a way of giving us what we need. Hold that vision and trust the process.
Sometimes when you think you can’t. You shouldn’t.
Have you ever had so much to do that you literally do not know where to start? I am the type of person that procrastinates when I have a lot to do. After the procrastination then comes panic and me wondering what I was thinking I committed to all this ‘stuff’ in the first place. You really cannot be everything to everyone. You really cannot keep going and giving and doing like the energiser bunny. He has unlimited reserves, you do not. Next time you feel like you can’t. Examine where you place your energy What and who you give your attention to. Pay attention to your body, your emotions. Have you been taking care of yourself as you should? Sometimes we just need to pause, declutter our mind, body and soul, Reevaluate our goals and most importantly; learn to say no to all the things that make us feel like crap. Just be with yourself. Recharge and rest. Always listen to your instincts they never ever lead you down the wrong path. Be kind to yourself always. Speak lovingly to and of yourself and turn that no I can’t intoYES I WILL.
Thoughts become things So what do you believe in? Do you listen to that little nag in your head that says ”You can’t do it ” or are you going to listen to that inner voice that screams Everything that you wanted can be yours You are doing your best. I am going to win.
How do you cope when feeling like you can’t What are some of the ways you stay motivated when life gets you down?
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Hi, there lovelies Happy and Blessed Sunday to all of you beautiful souls.
Something about Sundays reverberates quiet reflection for me. For some it is a day of worship, for others, it just screams fun in the sun. If you are lucky you have the day off from work. I remember two years of working Sundays, for me that was just so disrespectful lol but hey one must pay the bills, feed the family and also my mild shopping addiction. Whatever your Sunday entails; how about you ask yourself today, What can I do to make life better for me? Be totally selfish. You deserve it. Somehow our souls always have the answers, we know what needs to be done but yet we often times feel guilty about saying no or maybe just disappearing for a few hours for a recharge. Take a few minutes today to do something that brings you joy. Absolutely no excuses. Even if it is just buying yourself an ice cream cone and pretending that you are a toddler again with not a care in this world. Simply reflect on this past week and what made it great, even if it wasn’t so great to use your imagination it can lead you to some wonderful places. As usual, I leave you with one of my poems. Hopefully, it inspires you, sparks some food for thought or simply let it be a few seconds to escape from it all.
Life can be messy
You have to choose your battles wisely
Are you going to walk around with a weight on your shoulders?
No wonder you are tired
Worry does make the air so thick and heavy
It can become stifling, crippling, gripping you so tightly that your forget t breathe
In any situation you have three options :
Stress about it, Accept it or if you just can’t deal then carry on smartly
No need for revenge, resentment or regret
We have no space to encourage and foster that bad energy
Work on your own shit
Don’t watch others are doing
Work on where you place your focus
Sometimes you trip, you most definitely will fall
No shame in faltering as long as you get back up again
Be brave enough to choose yourself
Pick your battles, Keep your glow up
In this life you need to choose your battles wisely
If it does not bring you peace then it isn’t for you
Put one foot in front of the other, let it go, move on from the darkness
Sometimes you just need to say to hell with it and walk away
Pick your battles, know your worth and carry on smartly
Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you deal with life’s messes? What brings you joy?
When I was younger, I always saw endings as a tragedy They induced panic, caused tears.
So dramatic I was I always thought they were the end of me As I grew older and mastered the skill of letting things go I realised that faith would guide me The things that fall away were only meant to be there for a moment The disappointments, the rejections they do not define me The pain , the upset the messy moments They all come together to help you grow So what if it is over? It was fun for the while
The time has come to let it go Endings don’t have to be sad It may have been good but better will come Have faith, take that leap Welcome all possibilities with open arms Let go and let it flow.
Sometimes, we all have our weak moments. You guys can relate I am sure, You know the ones where you get down on yourself because you think maybe, just maybe you are falling behind or your life is not going according to your best-laid plans. I came up with this one after a meditation. I totally love when inspiration hits me from nowhere. This is a reminder for myself as well as anyone who needs it. You are a precious gift to this world. Never forget to .. Cherish yourself, take care of your inner needs and take exquisite care of yourself.
You do not have to be defined by your experiences You do not have to be tethered to your past Take things one day at a time Work on enjoying this moment Take a deep breath Feel your body fill with calm and contentment Smile and believe, any moment, this very moment can be your fresh start.
Start as many times as you need to Be patient with yourself Love yourself relentlessly Your energy, your vibe your soul that is your wealth Take time to unplug, decompress, chuck it all to just be and spend some time with yourself You have the power to be whatever you want to be and not be defined externals Focus on you , fill your own damn cup for once It is never selfish, only foolish not to pour all of the love you have into yourself
Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you show yourself, Love? What is your favourite self-care activity?
Surrender to the moment. Just let it be. Whatever it is. Don’t force it. Don’t judge it. Don’t fear it. Just feel it. Accept it. Just be it. Just Live.
Sometimes I long for simple days. The days when all I had to do was concern myself with what I wanted to eat for lunch. Just maybe I miss being a toddler. I envy my daughter sometimes, such a carefree unbridled bundle of energy. Some days as much as I hate to admit it; life is synonymous with overwhelm. We take on everything. We take on far too much until we feel like we have the weight of the entire Universe on our shoulders. It is safe to say sometimes I think this adulting business can miss me. I just want to be like a toddler and run around in my underwear and do whatever my little heart desires.
The bills are due and you are sitting there thinking about tomorrow and all of the things that you have to do. I don’t know about you but I am sick of to do lists. Yes, they keep us organised but they also keep us busy. So busy that we forget that we were not created to do stuff all the time. We were created to be joyful and carefree and to just simply be.
Anyone out there ever had an anxiety attack? I really do not know how to describe it. The walls are closing in. You are trying your best to keep shit together.Keep it all together. I am that kind of woman. I want to do it all and I want to do it all alone. Of course, I know this is not logical but as much as we resist we are all affected by the pressures of daily life at some point. When I get anxious, I literally forget to breathe. I think most of my anxiousness is brought on by my endless need for mental to-do lists. Things are not how I want them to be or maybe I have so many things I “must do”. My mind is not present and I am trying to live oh so many moments at once.
All the trivial things you worry about can make u manic.What are you doing? Living for next week next month next year? Or are you beating yourself up for something you did or did not do last year? We often forget that all we ever really have is now. Have you ever been overwhelmed? Truly overwhelmed? During these periods of overwhelm so many mixed emotions can arise. None of them, at least in my case are ever anything good. Self-doubt, fear, shame they all come crashing down like thunderstorms. Even for the strong ones, it can be too much to bear. I strongly believe in the immensely beautiful power of words ;so I came up with five affirmations that can help you reset and refocus your mind when you are overwhelmed. We all have those days when we feel like the world is against us.
Sometimes you just need a reminder to think happy thoughts and JUST BREATHE.
We all have those days when we forget how awesome we are. Do not place your value in the hands of those who do not appreciate you You are a STAR. Don’t you ever forget it . Nip those feelings of unworthiness in the bud with this affirmation.
As one of my good friends said just today as much self -love you have there are things that happen that will shake you ,that will sting a little.We are after all perfectly imperfectly. All you can do is take life’s challenges in stride. Keep your head held high and march forward t the future you have envisioned. Just remember no matter what you are confident and strong and you have got this.
Most importantly; Life for today for this moment. Stop looking back and stay focused on the prize.
Do you believe in the power of affirmations?What are some of your favourite ones and how do you deal when you are feeling overwhelmed? Share in the comments below.
YouTube is such a wonderful space. I get lost there on several occasions. Don’t you? In fact, it is one of my main sources of inspiration. Check out my favourite channels that I visit for a little pick me up, advice and motivation.
My list would not be complete without this channel. I remember one night my mind was feeling so full I could barely concentrate. Something just told me to try meditation and I ended up on this channel. She had me at bliss in four minutes. Don’t think you have the patience for meditation. Trust me if I can do it anyone can. On this channel, she also covers exercise and total body health. Basically, it caters to your mind-body and spirit.
Yoga is one of my best-loved activities for balance and overall well-being. Never tried it: well check out this post to learn about all the benefits of yoga.I think everyone already knows about this channel but I had to include it. She has yoga for every mood, purpose and ailment, She also incorporates the use of affirmations and mantras. Her videos just leave me feeling oh so good.
What are some of your favourite YouTube channels? Share them in the comments below.
A reason, A season, A lesson, A blessing. Everything in life falls into these four categories, sometimes we have a cocktail of them all because what would life be if we did not have a shake-up once in a while? DO you believe in everything for a reason? Sometimes I have the unshakeable faith that everything will work out on other days I want to stay in bed and binge-watch my life away. How can we justify everything for a reason when the reasons seemingly make no sense. We are not here to judge life or fix it we are here to live it. Sometimes all we can do just live; especially when we consider that most of it is out of our control. We make mistakes.fall down, get up or just lie there. The reactions and your attitude really are all up to you. The time is going to pass anyway so make the best ofit. The most imperfect and dysfunctional moments often make the best stories.
What season are you currently in? An endless winter, a hot summer burn? Or is it hurricane season with no sunshine in sight? Whatever experiences you are having at this moment know that they are essential for your growth. Without challenges, without loss, we would never learn how to appreciate anything at all. Everyone and everything that you encounter has something to teach you. You may not get the lesson right away but the pieces of the puzzle always fall into place somehow. One day you will just have one of those aha moments and you will go…so that is why it happened that way. I had to go through this to get to this point. When you look back on all the things that made you sad, angry or crazy you will be stronger for it .
Remember if you aren’t learning you aren’t growing. Three years ago, after a fairly tumultuous relationship; I have to admit I was a sad and bitter mess. I looked in the mirror and literally wondered who was this staring back me. There had to be more to life than this pain because when you really and truly immerse yourself in another human being , the separation is so gut-wrenching. We have all been through it. It literally feels like it bruises your soul. Thoughts of what if and blame and guilt and all those emotions that typically I really do not want to deal with. Today I can look back on it and accept the lesson . It is no longer a bitter nasty pill for me to swallow but it taught me resilience and how to forgive. ( I also do not feel like setting his stuff on fire anymore).It took me such a long time not to take the actions of others personally. People will act how they act and they do what they do.At the end of the day, we are all trying to do our best. My part in it all is not to retaliate or react. I refuse to let anything threaten my peace. Karma is a mirror and I want nothing but good things coming back at me. Not everything you lose is a loss, you take the experiences as opportunities for growth. Look at yourself today, right this every minute at how far you have come, how much you have been through and you are still standing and dare I say you are pretty awesome too! Don’t get bitter, get better . Turn all of that fiery energy into something good. Make it work for you.
How do you view life? Is it a blessing or the bitch that stole your joy? Let’s put things in perspective with a simple checklist. Put your hand to your heart and feel it beating, are your breathing? Are you clothed?Are you loved? Then really you have all you need at this moment.Life is all about being in the now. Now is after all the only moment we have. Make today a day of appreciation. It can’t always be sunshine and rainbows but you can always find the strength and the wisdom to value all of the good that you have in your life. In a world full of dark clouds be a ray of sunshine. Some days you have to dig deep but always remain steadfast and find the light.
If it does not fit don’t force it Let it flow, set it free In this life, you can never lose or fail Just look within you will find everything you need It is never to late to be reborn, reinvent, write a new story Don’t fuel the fire of worry, Your happiness was never meant to buried, snuffed out by these burdens Life is a learning curve, a work in progress don’t ignore the lessons Regroup, reflect, shake it off When you feel like giving up Put on those big girl panties and as they say, try, try again. Written By Tachira Wiltshire
How do you deal with life challenges? Do you have a favourite quote or mantra that gets you through the tough times?
Share with us in the comments and remember YOU ARE ENOUGH.
Some days we get so wound up and bent out of shape about things. Things are not going our way or so we think. Someone was rude and put us in a pissy mood. The rain poured, you got dumped, the wax lady messed up youreyebrows (maybe that would be a tragedy). All things we have absolutely no control over.
In life there are celebrations and triumphs and then well sometimes there is stuff that literally makes you feel like shit. Think about itthough, what did your fret or complain aboutyesterday? Is it still relevant today? Was it something you could change? If not you already have the answer right there. Let It Go. If it does not bring you peace let it go.
Let’s consider how quickly time is flying I mean life is literally passing us by. I swear it was just Christmas wasn’t it? How do you want to spend this life .? In a constant state of worry, regret, guilt, anxiety? As my therapist told me, I call her my therapist she is really a soul sister ”Tachira you got this one life. Get out of yourhead. Itisn’t that serious. Let it Go!
Whatever you have lost will be replaced by something better. Whatever is seemingly without a solution will besolved. It is always working out in yourfavour; even when it does not seem that way. So have a drink, eat somecake, binge-watch a show, go to the beach, ravish your lover, hug yourmama, cry, drop an f-bomb or several whatever it takes to get you in a good place.
This one life is what we were given to live joyfully, passionately. It may be a mess sometimes but it’s your mess. I firmly believe there is a flip side a bright side, a lesson in everything. Take a deep breath, laugh it off, cry it out; whatever you do. Just let all of the bullshit go. So I wrote this one for anyone who feels stuck or heavyladen. Remember you can get through anything. You are a badass. You are beautiful and blessed, waytoo awesome to be stressed. Stay in your magic. Give your soul a break and let it go.
I let go of the fucks and set myself free Disregard the chatter of your opinions of me Let the tension dissipate As I can finally breathe No longer defined by your insignificant boundaries I am what I am Repeat after me I am what I am Declare it boldly The energy of an entire universe flows through me Unshakeable, fierce you can’t mess with me Celebrate what you are Seize the power of the present Let go of the fucks and set yourself free.
On March 8th we celebrate International Women’ s Day. This years’ theme is #pressforprogress . I look forward to the day when all women can be afforded the opportunity to live up to their true potential. The day when we will not be judged or labelled for how we chose to live our lives. We all wonder women . We are all beautiful in our own right; with our unique stories and gifts. We are women, a source of unlimited resilience. Love and the utmost respect due to every female on the planet. Never let anything dull your sparkle and remember whatever you are going through. You got this boo. There is nothing that a woman can not handle. Channel your inner goddess. Equality is a right. Let no one ever make you feel unworthy because you are the giver of life. To be feminine is to be divine.
We are the mothers, the creators, the lovers The backbone of society Built to endure any strenuous task Nothing is ever impossible Never a tough ask Underestimated, abused, threatened, perceived as the weaker sex We break down all the barriers and cry out against the injustices You can not rule our bodies, our souls, our spirits, our minds By your misguided standards of beauty and intelligence, we will never be defined Empowered, We are more intense, complex and beautiful than you will ever know It’s 2018, fuck your outdated standards believes and judgments We will not be suppressed and objectified We are women. the catalysts for change A force to be reckoned with, together we stand Fueled by the fire and passion for equal rights
Rise goddesses,, unshakeable divine and full of light.