Live Authentically : Make Your Own Rules

Warning this post may contain moments of rambling. My thoughts decided to have a tennis match in my head today.


Sometimes in life, you have to disobey the rules. Now I don’t mean that laws that govern us and dictate how not to be a horrible human being. Although history has shown some of these same very rules, and laws have discriminated and disadvantaged several individuals. If that is not proof enough that we should not blindly follow certain rules,  I don’t know what is. I am specifically speaking about the ”rules ” as perceived by others.
Now I must admit I am quite stubborn and do not take orders very well . Especially ones I do not agree with. Just ask my last two managers; Managers just love opinionated workers don’t they? 

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I started blogging about five months ago. Like any good student, I did my research on how to start a blog. It quickly became overwhelming as I realized that everyone and their pet has articles on blogging rules.

I started to wonder Am I doing this right? What if I fail? What if no one reads what I write? I suppose every blogger goes through this during the initial months. Or is it just me? I have a really overactive mind which is sometimes turbocharged by caffeine.
Eventually, I had an epiphany! This was my blog. My creative pizza and I could sprinkle on any toppings I care to. I really do not think you can go wrong with pizza. We all have own preferences and ways of liking it served. So what is your niche? Life has no niche. Niche be damned. Rules what rules? Our blogs are as unique as we are. I can not grasp the concept of putting creativity in a box. There is no box. If you have a message share it even if one person gets it or no one gets it. You have crafted something that you can call yours.

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There is no right or wrong way to live life

How many of you receive unsolicited advice? I think we all do daily; in the form of commercials and social media trying to paint us a picture of what the ideal life looks like. Or maybe you have an overzealous relative, friend, a lover who thinks they know it all.
Here is my view. There is no right or wrong way to live life. Unless of course, you want to be a Stepford wife. We are not robots. I think this is how some of us end up living a life that others plan out on our behalf.
I say once you are happy then to hell with all of it. The do this by a certain age, then buy this and you will the most stylish. Perceptions and judgment we are all in some way influenced by them. Really is that any way to live a life?

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If you want to dress like a unicorn and believe you can fly you can do whatever your heart desires. People may say you’re crazy but people always have something to say. Validation is for parking. As long as your actions are not detrimental to anyone then just go ahead and be your bold beautiful self. Your life, your rules. Who does not like it can take the door or jump through a window. You do not need that sort of negativity in your life. I will take my judgments from God. Thank you very much!

Follow Your Intuition And Do What You Love 

How many times have you heard this? Probably like a million by now. I am not talking about your career path here. What makes your soul sing? What makes you want to jump out of bed and twerk to a calypso tune?

We are just hit with an inspiration that drives us to do a particular thing. A thing that defies all logic but something be it intuition or passion lights a fire under our butts and we just have to roll with it. This is how some of the best things were created by breaking the rules. At times what we envision may not be very practical. I have done practical and practical quite frankly is boring and can be quite torturous. How many of us have worked way too long in the soul-sucking job? Or stayed with that unfulfilling lover because it felt safe? 

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Stand Up For Your Rights  

We all are governed by certain rules and laws. What do we do when they are unfair, unjust and downright deplorable? Do we sit idly by and watch our fellow-man be mistreated? All rules are not made to be adhered to. Some if not all of it needs to be questioned. Whatever we do we must always stand up for our basic human rights. Highlight the issues and protest. Bring injustice to the light. Let’s not be selfish and just think about ourselves if one of us is affected by something then we all are. That is what humanity is all about.

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We all need to take a leap (myself included )and throw those excuses in the trash. Are you living a life based on your own rules or someone else’s?

Thanks for reading. Love and Blessings Tachi 

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