At the beginning of the year, I embarked on a 30-day yoga challenge entitled Dedicate and hosted by Yoga With Adriene. Well, I stuck to it and I completed every single downward dog and even those moves that tested my patience balance and flexibility. It was just supposed to be yoga but it turned out to be a total mind-body experience. I felt stronger and more balanced than I have in a very long time.
It is not about mastering the pose as Adriene says it is about finding what feels good. Isn’t that what life is about? The ups and downs the trials and errors. Ultimately we go through everything to get to a place that feels like home and live a life that we love. Here are three life lessons or realizations I had during my 30 days of yoga.
DON’T FORCE – FLOW
We all have had things that we plan, pour all of our efforts into and despite our best attempt at perfection, life happens and it basically goes in whatever direction it wants to. I have had moments where I have tried to nail a pose and fall flat on my ass. The obvious reaction would be to get pissed but all I did was laugh it off and go again. Simply put, you are supposed to get back up. Your pose is not supposed to look like your partner, your neighbors or Sally down the street. Just because you fall it does not make you a failure. It makes no sense trying to accomplish anything by force. If something is not working adjust to accommodate the pose (circumstance). It is useless to fight the flow and end up hurting yourself in the process. If anything yoga teaches you perseverance and the value of knowing what fits you. Do not fear looking awkward or be scared to do it your own way. Your life =your unique flow.
Life is about experiencing joy. DISCOVER WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD
It seems pretty convenient for us to dwell on the mishaps and the fuck-ups and the what could have been. Often times we cling to places or people that we have outgrown. We repeatedly keep trying things that we know deep down have absolutely no benefit to our mind, bodies or souls. Do you want to go through life being sad sack Susie or amazing Amanda? You know the type of person who is willing to put in the work and make your life better and discover what makes you absolutely tingle with delight. We can berate ourselves, belittle our efforts and become our own worst enemy or worse yet work and give until we are at the brink of exhaustion or burnout. Yoga has reinforced the importance of not putting myself in positions that are detrimental to my well being, and even if you do there is always a way back to recovery. We really should focus on and revel in the things that make us feel sweet. The things that make us feel beautiful and worthy and bubbly. You know those things that give you that extra oomph even on the days when you feel more like a dud and less like a goddess. It does not have to be anything grandiose. We tend to get caught up in doing the awe-inspiring social media worthy stuff we lose sight of how the simplest of things can ignite bliss. Finding what feels good is knowing that even when things are difficult and chaotic you can discover ways to center yourself and realize that whatever you are experiencing is just temporary. Look for ways to as the song says to accentuate the positive. ( tell me you didn’t just break out into song reading that, I did 🙂 ) There are days when you will feel defeated, frustrated and downright disgusted but know this, you do not have to dwell there.
Don’t forget to BREATHE.
Taking a breath is such a blessing. It means we are alive, yet so often we take these limited breaths we have been given for granted. In yoga, as in life, we need our breath to guide us through those difficult moments. Those of us who suffer from anxiety can attest to how just simply breathing can make a significant difference between going from a place of nervousness to calm. Don’t get bogged down by the overwhelm of to-do lists and the ridiculous and impossible pressure of having to get everything right. Take time for yourself, take time to breathe, to make space. Breathe, release and let go of the tension. Do it one time, do it several times just do whatever it takes to get you to a place of serenity.
It is now month number five . Day 121 of 365. How are you feeling? Hopefully, you are still as optimistic as when this year began. Know that you can dedicate time to yourself no matter how ”busy ” you are. Time to simply breathe, take a break or start over. Fresh starts are everyday sort of thing, an every minute kind of thing. Dedicate your efforts to creating the life that you truly want. Yoga is not all about striking the perfect pose. Life is not about filters and capturing only those moments in which we shine or appear to. We all want to do and be our best but there is not a damn thing wrong with accepting your imperfections and your so-called mess. It does not matter what your pose looks like to anyone else as long as you are happy. You are and will always be your most meaningful and longest commitment.
How has this year been for you so far?
Mondays are the beginning. No matter where we are in life we have a chance to begin again. When we go through those tough times we often forget how resilient we are. We often forget that there is hope as long as there is life. I write this for myself as much I write for others. The troubles pass, the days get easier. Never forget life is a gift. Never forget Life is beautiful.
This is your reminder that everything will be alright
The signs may say different but there is no need to fight
The process, the present circumstances may not be ideal
There is never a trial without a lesson, a blessing an opportunity to heal
This is your reminder that everything will be alright
It is just a moment, they always pass
Stay grounded in the present the upheaval never lasts
There is no need to fight the process,
You are on the path to progress just you wait and see
You may not like it, you may not love it but you are exactly where you need to be
Like the dragonfly, the transformation will be inspiring
Stay open to every possibility, these growing pains mean nothing
It is all going to come together just you wait and see
You may not love it, you may not like it but you are exactly where you need to be.
How do you get through the tough times? What is your favorite way to stay motivated?
Hi there lovelies, Welcome to another instalment of the Sunday Soul Food Series. I don’t know about you guys but the past two months have been one emotional roller coaster ride. I blame the full moon and new moon being In Cancer. They are some deep and brooding souls. I have lost count of all of the times I have literally said I can’t this month.
Then common sense kicked in and I realised whatever I speak will manifest. If I think I can’t then guess what I want . Have you guys ever felt that way like you just can’t deal with all of the ”stuff ” that life throws at you sometimes? Everything becomes so difficult and burdensome and a downright chore. You start to develop a defeatist attitude like maybe I should just lie here and not complete another damn thing.
When you start to feel this way just consider these four thoughts before you start to utter another negative word or have another woe is me thought.
It never is as hopeless as you think.
How do you react when faced with difficulties will always be the determinant of your level of satisfaction or success. We all have struggles, setbacks, hiccups. Think about it. Was there ever anything you ever went through that you did not grow through? The bad break up, the job loss, paying off those bills. It sometimes feels like it is taking a century but at the end of the day the situation does change and you overcome it. Have you ever been so damaged by anything that you went through that you did not survive another day? If you are reading this then chances are the answer is a bit fat NO. The next time you are feeling that you can’t, remember those times that you slew those dragons, wrestled with those demons and you still came out victorious. Those thoughts will give you the encouragement and that little injection of empowerment that you need to keep pushing through.
The problem is not the problem. It is your attitude about the problem that is the problem.
Yes, I meant to rhyme there. That heading sure is a mouthful. You essentially attract the energy that you put out. Fretting, fussing, cussing, frustration only attracts more things for you to get upset about . Be the one that looks for the solutions in times of crisis and not the one that runs and panics . The world isn’t ending the sky isn’t falling . What you envision as the outcome is what you will get . Try to focus your energy not on the size of the issue or the seemingly tragic outcome , instead focus on how you can and will overcome it .
Life does not happen on your timetable.
So maybe you want this one thing and you sat and you pictured it and you worked hard and still no results. What now? Do you give up or keep going ? in life, nothing rarely ever happens exactly how or when we want it to. When you make peace with that simple yet sometimes quite difficult fact; then you are halfway on the path to your dreams. We all get frustrated. we all want what we want and we want it now. I personally want to work four-hour days and retire at 40 and sip margaritas while laying on exotic beaches. We all have our dreams and aspirations. You will get what you want or maybe not. You will get something better. Life has a way of giving us what we need. Hold that vision and trust the process.
Sometimes when you think you can’t. You shouldn’t.
Have you ever had so much to do that you literally do not know where to start? I am the type of person that procrastinates when I have a lot to do. After the procrastination then comes panic and me wondering what I was thinking I committed to all this ‘stuff’ in the first place. You really cannot be everything to everyone. You really cannot keep going and giving and doing like the energiser bunny. He has unlimited reserves, you do not. Next time you feel like you can’t. Examine where you place your energy What and who you give your attention to. Pay attention to your body, your emotions. Have you been taking care of yourself as you should?
Sometimes we just need to pause, declutter our mind, body and soul, Reevaluate our goals and most importantly; learn to say no to all the things that make us feel like crap. Just be with yourself. Recharge and rest. Always listen to your instincts they never ever lead you down the wrong path. Be kind to yourself always. Speak lovingly to and of yourself and turn that no I can’t into YES I WILL.
Thoughts become things
So what do you believe in?
Do you listen to that little nag in your head that says
”You can’t do it ”
or are you going to listen to that inner voice that screams
Everything that you wanted can be yours
You are doing your best.
I am going to win.
How do you cope when feeling like you can’t
What are some of the ways you stay motivated when life gets you down?