Welcome, February the month of love, joy, and all that mushy goodness. As women, as mothers, we often become accustomed to focusing on the love we have for others We sometimes to forget to nourish the relationship we have with ourselves. When we are tired, stressed and generally off balance we cannot serve those that we cherish the most. Never forget you deserve alone time, you deserve to be pampered. Your opinions are valued and valuable. You are a goddess. Since this is the month of love how about you shower some extra care and attention on the one that matters the most: YOU!
The relationship you have with yourself is the core for every other connection that you have and will have in your life. This brought the question to mind what does self-love mean to you.? I asked a few of the wonderful and inspiring women that I know and these were their responses. This month this day and every day. Feel the love, spread love and be the love that you desire.
What does self-love mean to you?
I am a unique creation. I see myself as one human being with a unique DNA that can’t be mixed up or mistaken for anyone else’s.I appreciate myself because of my uniqueness, the shape of my ass, the curves of my body, the light in my eyes when I am happy; are all unique to me. I know that I am beautiful just the way I am –Selena
Self Love to me is something that I am still learning. But part of it would be accepting the wrongs in my life that have happened and learning and growing from it. Not allowing negative energy to affect you and also noticing when unwanted energy is around and not compromising your vibe to accommodate theirs.
I believe it also involves taking time for yourself to refocus and indulge oneself. Doing what you love is also an integral part of self-love. Settling for whatever is there or available is not. I remember this job I had where my co-worker and I were talking about doing things we love and she said the job was her bread and butter so I said you know I don’t want bread and butter what I want are waffles and sausages with a glass of Oj. She watched me like I was crazy. I simply meant I do not ever intend to settle. Overall cultivating peace of mind is genuine self-love – Anonymous
Self-love means putting myself first. My needs. My wants. My happiness. Everything else after -Amanda
Being unpologetically myself and doing what is best for me despite what others may think . Saying no to anything and anyone that disrupts my peace and putting myself first when I need to -Alicia
Loving yourself above all others other than God and always know your worth because you are worthy. Love yourself first before you love someone else but don’t be selfish -Chicora
My idea of self-love is making decisions that make you comfortable and being at peace with whatever you do. There is a sense of freedom associated with it. Happiness is a state of being, it is dynamic, however, if we are comfortable there are more happy moments. This will extend to all parts of my life because I am a work in progress -Nicole
I decided to do a 14-day self -love challenge because I think we all need something to inspire us each and every day. These suggestions are by no means anything new but they serve as a reminder to be kind yourself so you can be kind to others. Do not feel guilty for saying no; for not feeling like it or for indulging because life is meant to be savored and enjoyed. Go ahead spoil yourself in the most simple ways or spectacular ways this and every month . These can be done in any order you like. Sometimes we just need a break and few moments to reset and remember how fabulously divine we truly are.
DAY ONE -Self Love Meditation. If mediation isn’t your thing try some self-love affirmations or a self-love prayer
DAY TWO- Self Love Yoga
DAY THREE -Take a nature walk
DAY FOUR – Take yourself on a date
DAY FIVE – Buy yourself flowers or chocolate
DAY SIX – Look into the mirror admire your beauty and say I LOVE YOU
DAY SEVEN- Make a list of 14 things you love about yourself . Get creative and make this a mini craft project.
DAY EIGHT -Treat yourself to your favorite beauty treatment
DAY NINE – Sleep in and have breakfast in bed
DAY TEN -Make time to read something romantic or inspiring
DAY ELEVEN -Start a birthday fund so you can splurge on your birthday
DAY TWELVE -Have impromptu dance session
DAY THIRTEEN -Write yourself a love letter
DAY FOURTEEN -Forgive yourself for your past mistakes and know that missteps only make you better and stronger.
This is a reminder to always stop and focus on the good each day. Find something to light your inner fire. This can not be said enough. You above all others deserve love, inner peace and happiness
Share in the comments -what does self -love mean to you and how to do make time in this busy world for yourself?